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joujou bel (1 day ago)
That's true!!
wt8012 (23 days ago)
Meeting someone wonderful and then realising you can't have them is one of the most heartbreaking feelings imaginable. Whether you like someone who is taken or you ask someone out and they say no, the aftermath is very painful. VERY painful indeed. When I had a similar experience myself, it took me about five to six years to fully recover from it because it hurt me so bad. People say "move on" or "there are plenty of other fish in the sea" like the opposite sex are just numbers. As stated in other DatingLogic videos, there is no designated person preordained for you or anybody else by fate. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. If it lasts, lasts. If it ends, it ends. True love does exist but it is not guaranteed. You can't make yourself love someone you don't love so sometimes it isn't easy to move on and find someone who is single so easily. Just because someone is single it doesn't mean you'll have feelings for them. I've always been told I'm being too picky or something like that. It just isn't that easy when it comes to people and relationships.
sk8ergangsta2003 (28 days ago)
Very true.
hala Almadhy (1 month ago)
True words
astra686 (2 months ago)
It hurts so bad
Kristopher Hasenbuhler (2 months ago)
Once in a while the curiosity gets The Best of Me I think what you just said helped me
brighter fighter (2 months ago)
Sad thing is if you never got to try first at least
Lorrie Kelly (2 months ago)
he. did
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Anonymous Potato (4 months ago)
This person and I both have the same last names. In my culture he would be my brother, so I’ll be an incest. It’s Taboo😭
Ron Ann Rose (4 months ago)
I cried
camilla de vivenot (5 months ago)
English guys are jerks
juliet okpu (5 months ago)
Thanks a million. It is all in the mind ... not a reality
Azemina Ay (6 months ago)
Unknown (6 months ago)
Still in 2018 it’s a greatest video. Thank you 🙏
SAMA Alrifaie (6 months ago)
Maybe! this person has all of them.
Nyhna Law (7 months ago)
I can see all of his problems and still think we can be perfect together kz I get him. Help me through that. I’m a psychology major, and I cant shake him. I’ll go years without speaking or seeing and fall back in love on sight. Fix me.
Nyhna Law (14 days ago)
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+Nyhna Law when can i get to that stage??? I feel exactly like your past comments...💀
Nyhna Law (4 months ago)
Funny that I don't even remember writing this. Somewhere between then and now, I've put him in a category with all the other mfs I'm never fucking with again. Lol. No more excuses and shit. Fuck that nigga.
Bleu 1 (4 months ago)
+Nyhna Law ooh giirrrlll! You in deep. When you love that hard it seems like it's no turning back. Being in love is like a contract we sign. We vow to love and honor our commitment and just because the other party breaks that commitment doesn't mean we're ready to break our commitment. So at this point it's like what's the point of holding on to a broken contract? So it's like we walk around grieving that the contract was broken. We are stuck with the contract, while they out there f..king up. We feel better mentally when we are achieving our goals and keeping distance, but deep down you desire mending the broken contract (your heart). So, yes, we know theyre not good for us right now, but we feel somehow that theirs potential for the relationship will blossom eventually. But as the saying goes sometimes it's best to leave glass broken instead of cutting ourselves trying to fix it. Better to be healthy alone than sick with someone else. But I definitely feel you. Been there and is not a pleasant feeling loving someone who may not be good for you in this point of your life.
Nyhna Law (5 months ago)
I hear that. My only problem is, I feel like I can do all that. I said I can go years without him. Seeing or speaking to him and be alone and LOOOVE it. its almost like I'd rather just be alone, actually. But with him, its different. Our timing always seems "wrong". And i "let go" and "move on" but he still lingers in the back of my mind and in my heart. I hate it. I left him, moved homes, got a new job, new car, new hair, lost weight, THE WHOLE NINE! 3 years later, I found him back in my bed and my head. The unhealthy love i feel for him makes me sick. I can cut anyone off with ease and move on once I feel they're toxic for my health. But for some reason, I just cant with him....but i REALLY want to. UGH! It sucks. And this is the battle I've been having with myself..
Bleu 1 (7 months ago)
Rejection is God's best protection! #trusthim
hala Almadhy (1 month ago)
Cheena BeeLicious (8 months ago)
This makes so much sense!
silsil mama (8 months ago)
You just saved my life xoxo
supensaa (11 months ago)
Thank you so much man. The way you delivered this idea somehow gave me clarity in a way that no other resource I've found has managed to do.
Lisa Loveskittycats (11 months ago)
You’re awesome!!
CYCLOGY Love Psychology (11 months ago)
How can I Contact You? Sir
Dragon Ghost (11 months ago)
Thanks your a genius so wise
BaDUM Tsss (1 year ago)
This video is amazing thank you
Abhijit Menon (1 year ago)
This has really helped me:))))
The New South Africa (1 year ago)
Fuck this video was the truth i needed. Never thought about it this way, it really is an eye opener. Well done sir.
I say Fuck that Bitch she not shit anyway stupid bitch didn't even try to get know get in first place i brought her water ice but got number but she text me like 1 time but she told me she had girlfriend then couple months later she with another nigga So Fuck Her 😐
pratham chhabra (1 year ago)
What if your crush is your best friend and she got a boyfriend when you were gonna ask her out
Jeremy (1 year ago)
TheLady2luv (1 year ago)
He hit the nail point with that. So true
DJ_ ED (1 year ago)
I'm going to send this video to my sister who can't get over a guy, thanks man.
ElyZium Lights (1 year ago)
Ik that the only way i can be happy is if i let her go but part of me just cant except that, part of me feels like i need her and that im the only person who knows how she needs to be treated and i just cant understand why i was made to feel this way about someone if theyll never feel the same way back
Kris (1 year ago)
We've been dating for 10months now, just found out he's married. How can I let him go? 😖😖😖
amarah lmao (1 year ago)
i love your videos, they're so helpful and they get straight to the point, thank you :)
Luna Star (1 year ago)
I needed this i confessed to him and he didn't even bother to replay although he made me beleive he is in to me thank you i wasted 2 years of my youth waiting for him and imagine my life with him this is what I need to hear I'll graduate from university soon and i don't want to waste my time any more I'm in my 20's i need to live be happy deserve a person who actually love me and it hurts me so much writing this and feeling how i could be so stupid
lifehumanity (1 year ago)
Best video ! All is about our thoughts ...
Crystal wistle (1 year ago)
"This person could have anger issues, loyalty issues, jealousy issues"....does he know my ex or what lol
Sens4Lyfe6 (1 year ago)
I... I can't get over her ;( I dream about her, I love her. It's hard. The thing is I don't want to accept reality. She lives on the other side of the country. Why did god and my heart have to fall so hard for her?
Mark Jay Echivarre (1 year ago)
thank you for this
Sofia Hernandez (1 year ago)
really glad I found this vid it really helped me to understand what im feeling
Tiffany Martinez (1 year ago)
I have liked a curtain kid for a long time now.My problem is i never liked him a lot before.I only started liking him more and more because my friends and other people keep putting stuff in my head getting my hopes up.Ever since then i been fantasizing on me being with him it took months later to find out that everyone who put those things in my head where lying and he turned out to be the exact opposite it hurts a lot i honestly don't know what to do anymore
MMj Lee (1 year ago)
Quaid Bulloch (1 year ago)
Thank you so much!
Spoof Jones (1 year ago)
Wow so true!
Marcus Cox (1 year ago)
wow impressive i will take that advice
Brianna Reilly (1 year ago)
omgg thank you so much
nads008able (2 years ago)
Edward Danville (2 years ago)
Will this also work with same-sex attractions? WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Same sex attractions are a nightmare!
M L (2 years ago)
Thank you!
Lyndsey N (2 years ago)
Well I've seen lately his real personality and its very nasty and lousy and its not someone I would ever be attracted to or want as a boyfriend. the person who was being sweet and nice is gone. so don't be fooled all the time by the charmer. he might be very mean to people in general . realize you dont want a person like that.
Bilash Shahi (2 years ago)
The girl I am madly and amazingly in love with doesn't give a damn about me, but I just have not been able to get her outta my mind. We used to be colleagues, but now she has joined some other company. We used to spend a lot of time together, not cuz we liked each other or anything, but coz she didn't have much friends. She approached me only when she needed something from me, and sometimes I felt really bad cuz I knew that she would never wanna go out with me, and I felt being used. Life is a bitch but what the heck.
Daniel Shovu (2 years ago)
thank you very much i think i started abit to feel better now
Rylee L (2 years ago)
I needed this video... so glad I found it. It's simple, but for some reason, it really helps
just love (2 years ago)
Rylee Langlois same. this video actually helped me make up my mind.
Brogan Hogan (2 years ago)
Great video, thank you... from a broken and very sad heart
lanaisthere (2 years ago)
thanks! ✌🏻️
Steezzy B (2 years ago)
I cant believe I'm 13 and I'm having to watch this video she did me dirty😥
Awesome :) Really helped :)
Jason Lee (2 years ago)
Thank you! You have been more helpful than my therapist for me trying to forget about my crush
Heba Bardan (2 years ago)
Can't get over how perfect your advices are man ur amazing
Rob Minshull (2 years ago)
I've realised the utopia is just that and now I'm crashing from the realisation and don't know how to get over that. The fact that it's a dream just makes me more sad? And it's making it harder to get over them because I'm so sad about it?
Keila kai (2 years ago)
Amen.. Even if the connection is so strong.. Not real
Rocco G. (2 years ago)
I know this video was made in 2013 but I really needed this advice.. Thankyou!
Byron Mcdonald (2 years ago)
feb 2014 i was a mess with a situation i had with a girl i fell in love with. skip ahead to over 2 yrs later and im fine. the issues are gone and i am functioning exactly the way im suppose to function. it takes alot of work to forget someone. its a very long process but you have to use any and every tool at your disposal to help yourself out. The same way you obsess over a man or a woman, you have to use that same type of obsession to help yourself get better. In time you will see yourself recovering.
Welly Sanusi (2 years ago)
You are the best man, thanks.
FizzyIzzy (2 years ago)
However, what if you have been with that person and only realized after the break up that you truly loved them? What if they loved you, too, but no one can say a word? I'm trying to get over him but I have this feeling that I should just give him time. On the other hand, it's hard having to see him almost every day and then pretend that I don't want to hug him or ask him to dinner after school. I believe that God has his plans, but, why am I having extreme difficulty removing him from my life AND keeping him? We agreed to be friends again (we were bffs once) however, we can hardly look each other in the eyes when we're next to one another. Why are we at a standstill? Is it just that we are both too afraid to say anything about our current situation/relationship? I'm so confused
just love (2 years ago)
MsKeelyKat13 that's great! im happy for you! 🤗 I'm in the same situation...also realized that but still a work in progress. Your reply helps!
FizzyIzzy (2 years ago)
+just love Yeah, I realized that over this past summer. I'm happier now that he's out of my life :) He was like a toxic ticking time bomb that I just didn't want to throw away for the fear that it might not explode. Well, it did but I'm glad I learned something from this experience.
just love (2 years ago)
MsKeelyKat13 i think it would be very difficult to remain being bffs while you still have feelings for him. you will just get frustrated.
Gabriella Dantas (2 years ago)
I so needed to listen that! :'/ thank you!
grapefruit04 (2 years ago)
I haven't been in the best mental state because I was obsessed with someone who was already married with kids and it felt gut-wrenchingly awful seeing how cute they were and getting to know them. Thanks so much for this video.
Queen Star Wars (3 years ago)
Thank you
adil pathan (3 years ago)
Here is my situation; last year on holiday met a Colombian girl spent lovely time, fell in love and forgot to ask for contact details back in the UK but still no clue where she is =(( please help sir
Gray Fox (3 years ago)
I like this video. Here's my situation: I fell in love for the first time when I was 9 years old, she was 5 years older than me. When I was 18, she came back into my life and even gave me her number and of course I was happy. Problem was I was still a senior in high school and she was now a single mother with a kid. Another problem: I was really shy, quiet, and insecure, and also struggled with social anxiety at the time, so I was worried if I had gone on a friendly date with her, it wouldn't go so well, and also worried that we probably wouldn't have things in common. By the time I started college: At the time, I figured it was best just to move on and we soon lost contact with each other. At this point, I'm in my mid-20s and recently became interested in her again, but then I found out she was engaged, and I was pretty bummed out and mad at myself because I had blew every chance to come back into contact with her over the years. But I relate to what you say in this video, we'd never know what they were like if we were dating and with me, all I had was creating fantasies of what the date would be like, I just have to keep that in mind.
Lizzy Mancini (3 years ago)
but I can't stop I don't no how
Byron Mcdonald (3 years ago)
a year and 7 months ago i was a complete mess. I couldnt sleep i couldnt function properly all because of a woman i was just enamored with. I was losing weight and even when i was with my daughter, i couldnt stop thinking about this woman i was in love with. Ultimately the best way to get back to being functional is just letting time go by. Plus you have to use tips like videos, and reading to help the process along. It also depends on the individual to want to get better. Its hard and it takes a long time. But your progress depends on you, you have to want to get bettter and you have to discipline yourself to stay focused on getting better. Training your mind to think differently helped me tremendously.Theres a book by a woman named joyce meyer, its called "battlefield of the mind". greatest book in the world to help you fix ruminating thoughts that you have in your mind. Initially you have to grieve and obsess over the woman or man, so do that first month because in the beginning, thats all you want to do. do that for about a month until you get sick and tired of thinking about this subject, then you start the healing process. I still have feelings for this woman, but im no where near like i used to be a year ago. feelings linger and they are always with you, you just have to get to a place where you can control them as best as you can. at some point, your obsession will subside and you will begin to feel better and be in a happier functioning space. Your mind is designed to continuously try to figure things out, once you train your mind, you can control it. you can literally stop it from driving you crazy. Those obsessive thoughts that continue to run wild in your head can be controlled, you can literally halt it when they start. its tough and takes a long time, but it can be done. My thoughts used to drive me crazy untill i learned how to control them. after awhile your mind just gives up trying to control you because you will be in charge and you will control your mind instead of it controlling you. Im still a work in progress, but things are much easier to deal with now. getting over a woman or man is tough no matter what the situation is but its not imposssible to do. I hope my little bit of advice can help some folks. Good luck people.
Gameplay Nxt (5 months ago)
Byron Mcdonald this comment was 2 years ago you still in love?
Robert Hernandez (3 years ago)
what if I've known the person for five years?
Connor Moss (3 years ago)
I was on holiday and I met the perfect girl there, and while I knew she had a boyfriend I fell for her anyway and she had feelings for me too. on the last day I kissed her and she promised to keep in touch. when she got home she blocked me and refused to speak. eventually I got through to her to ask why, and she said she felt bad for kissing another person that wasn't her bf. I have no hard feelings towards her because she told me straight away she had a boyfriend, but I still feel black and depressed. how the hell do I get over a girl who was in fact perfect in every aspect, but I could never have? and I mean literally every aspect. I see what you're saying about the eutopia of the mind etc but I cant genuinely think of a single thing that was wrong apart from her bf
Heartlines (3 years ago)
this is so helpful. thank you.
Martin Schaffhauser (3 years ago)
a girl in my school liked me and i liked her but then she stopped liking me. i dont know why. and i tried dating other girls but i still couldnt get over her. im only 13 but i cant even describe how i feel. ive  been thinking about her for 2 years now. we met at a camp on a school trip. shes everything. and i know how people say theres plenty of fish in the sea but, not like her. i cant get over her. she made me happy again after my grandad, both my great nannies, and my closest cousin died. any advice how to get over her, or should i keep liking her and keep trying to get her to like me?
Paul Lomax (3 years ago)
The person I'm fawning over I've known for years, and we've been good friends.  She has a boyfriend, but a few weeks ago we shared a long and passionate kiss, and now I'm absolutely head over heels for her. However... she's going to the Caymans to see her boyfriend in August, and I'm torn between my heart and my mind. I know it's wrong to persue... but she's so wonderful, and my heart aches for her. Any suggestions?
Andrei Beretean (3 years ago)
+Paul Lomax interesting, i'm kinda in the same situation. What happened afterwards ?
Paul Lomax (3 years ago)
+hana M Oh, we talked.  It meant far more to me than it did to her, unfortunately.  She had a moment of weakness, and while she clearly has some feelings for me her heart still yearns for her bloody boyfriend.  As much as I wanted to be more agressive in my efforts, I also wanted to be careful not to ruin the friendship.  In fact, the last few weeks have been awful- she barely looked me in the eye or spoke a word to me. Things are clearing up now, thankfully.  I feel our relationship has been restored to 'good friends' but I don't think it'll go beyond that :\ A man can always hope, though :)
hana M (3 years ago)
I don't think a kiss like that should be ignored. You should talk to her about it, she must jave had some feelings to have kissed you, and not enough for her boyfriend to have resisted
Heidi Crystal (3 years ago)
Thanks for the tips
dazedbitai (3 years ago)
Anais Fransico (4 years ago)
Thanks man you're the best. This video really helped me :) 
Eleanor Curry (2 years ago)
Anais Fransico
xXTheNewMoonXx (4 years ago)
I can't stop thinking about this person he is always on my mind and I love him so much that I had a freaking dream with him in it ;( I didn't want it to end though. This person is on my skype account so I don't even know what he looks like but I don't wanna give is name out just incase he reads this comment and thinks I'm a creep so anyway I don't think it's gonna go any wear and I'm not even older then 13 I'm 12 :/ but it's so hard for me and I don't even know if he feels the same way about this. I need some help.....
Boris Johnson (24 days ago)
Hiya buddy 4 years later how you doing? You still attached or have you moved on?
ilievskisart (4 years ago)
Best one I've seen thankyou!
MsLoverPower (4 years ago)
What you're talking about is "falling in love" which most people consider as "true love" and they just couldn't be more wrong. Being in love and loving someone are two separated things, heck"being in love" is NOT even a feeling, while love is. Saying that I must also tell what "being in love" actually is - it's a pathological state where people project their wishes of their "ideal partner" to someone that actually exist and they like because they "fit in your frame" - the frame you created in your mind how your "perfect" lover is going to be. Once you fall out of love and see your partner exactly the way they are, there's a 99% chance you WILL be dissapointed. However, if you think in that moment to break up with your partner because "the love is gone", I have a reality check for you - the "love" isn't gone because it didn't have the opportunity to start yet :) We all have "good and bad sides", but once you see them and still see an opportunity that you might still like your partner, there's a possibility for the LOVE to begin. Unless they harm you/abuse you in any way, which is a whole new topic, but I just couldn't end my comment with "then they lived happily ever after" as any and every kind of a relationship needs work from both sides :)
Sergio Scudieri (4 years ago)
Just watched this video and, man, i can't believe i've never thought of it this way. It might sound stupid but you really made me get over this girl JUST THIS SECOND. She really was self-centered now that i think of it. I know ill find someone who will ACTUALLY care about me, instead of chasing after girls who only care about themselves.
Angel Rose (4 years ago)
You are reading my mail! Thanks 
John Izaak (4 years ago)
Thank you very much.
Angel Silva (4 years ago)
Wow this guy is preaching.
greennailpolish22 (4 years ago)
Thank you.
Arvidje (4 years ago)
We all tend to have what we can't get en create ilusions in our head en ignore the reality. The best way to go with a woman, be sure from the start that you alway's act like a catch. 
Zion Adore (4 years ago)
2 of 2 Let me tell the rest of the story. In my desperate attempt to draw his attention I used my colleague (a much mature lady) to make enquiries about and from him directly. This was in 2006/7 or 2008/9. Initially my hopes were really built up, my colleague came back to tell me that he was excited and inquisitive. But nothing ever happened. The same colleague, who works more closely with him in our workplace came back some weeks or months later to complain and vent herself about his character flaws. She tried to convince me to forget him. But I was much younger at the time and didn't understand or know how to get over the crush.
Zion Adore (4 years ago)
Thank you for sharing your time and indepth knowledge, particularly with inexperienced people like me. Your YouTube clips have given me some relief and encouragement. At present I feel very broken, because the only man I've ever liked in my whole entire 33 years of life has no regard for me. He never greets me, however, he kind of reply when I greet him. He never initiates any conversation and typically does not show a friendly persona towards me. This pitiful game of waiting and wishing has gone on for 7 years and it is emotionally draining. Whether I like it or not, I'm determined to find a way of wiping him off my mind. I know it is the right thing to do, but hey, it's easier said than done. But, at least I've made a start, that's how I found your videos. From your videos I've learnt a lot about body language and meaning in dating. In my case, this guy tends drop his head/eyes when he sees me. I've tried to observe how he interacts with others. I have had to very painfully admit to myself that I am nothing to him and probably will never be. Please make more videos about getting over a crush and how to recover when rejected in the ways described above. Thank you Zion
Zion Adore (4 years ago)
Thank you for sharing your time and indepth knowledge, particularly with inexperienced people like me. Your YouTube clips have given me some relief and encouragement. At present I feel very broken, because the only man I've ever liked in my whole entire 33 years of life has no regard for me. He never greets me, however, he kind of reply when I greet him. He never initiates any conversation and typically does not show a friendly persona towards me. This pitiful game of waiting and wishing has gone on for 7 years and it is emotionally draining. Whether I like it or not, I'm determined to find a way of wiping him off my mind. I know it is the right thing to do, but hey, it's easier said than done. But, at least I've made a start, that's how I found your videos. From your videos I've learnt a lot about body language and meaning in dating. In my case, this guy tends drop his head/eyes when he sees me. I've tried to observe how he interacts with others. I have had to very painfully admit to myself that I am nothing to him and probably will never be. Please make more videos about getting over a crush and how to recover when rejected in the ways described above. Thank you Zion
killswitchlee123 (5 years ago)
I totally understand what is being said in this video. Not long ago I did have this idea of me and this certain lady getting together (we've known each other for nearly 14 years) but since then I've realised that could also be impossible as she is in fact married. We've talked about it and I appreciate her being patient with me and my feelings, and I also appreciate her for being one of the best people / friends I've ever met, I've told her this. I've learned to be more patient with her too. Now I think of it like "if she got divorced and maybe thought of the idea of me and her as well, and we actually went through with it but it didn't work, would we really be able to rebuild a friendship or would it be awkward?"
gaige smith (5 years ago)
This really helped me a lot, I'm happy I. Found this video
Lil' T (5 years ago)
Thank you for this
Byron Mcdonald (5 years ago)
ive been friends with a woman i work with for 5 yrs.shes blk im blk,she and i talked about doing stuff outside of work but we just never linked up, but we still talked about it.she threw me a curve by getting involved with a guy at work that i cant stand because he helped her by a car because she crashed hers. she went to him and hes just doing what any man in his position would do.the images of them together disgusts me.my emotions are all over the place, its only been about a month since they hooked up and i know i just need to erase her from my memory.Its rough but i know eventually she will be eradicated from my brain.I never thought she and i would be a couple, just really good friends.maybe in my mind she was my girl unofficially.I think the only thing that will help me with this is time and patience on my part and civility.
soneelita (5 years ago)
hi i have been thinking of this guy for the past 15 yrs ...... ya 15yrs...i have not seen or met him all these yrs but he has been on my mind every second........i fell in love wid him in 98 ...I never had a sexual relation wid him.......we were just frens ..........we lost touch in 2000.........i kept on bin in love wid him till 2009 without seeing or talking on d ph even......in 2009, i found out that he was involved wid drugs.....i lost faith in him and don't like him as much as i did b4......however dammit it is 2014 and i think of him still......i get happy,sad,angry all kinds of thoughts......i have met several guys but things neva worked out and m still single..........my family makes fun of me, they dn't understand that i m dying slowly inside ....this guy is like my heart-beat or like every breath that i take.......i have no idea when this craziness will end......hope dis dsn't go on till 2080!! 
Outlaw (5 months ago)
soneelita must be nice
soneelita (1 year ago)
Yes I got over him by June 2014 ............now I don't feel sad or lonely about the whole scenario.
solidn6 (1 year ago)
Are you over him now?
soneelita (5 years ago)
thnks for yo advise 
DatingLogic (5 years ago)
There is a good chance that the reason why your encounters with guys have never worked out is because you are not available to them emotionally. As long as you are in love with this other guy, you will never truly give all of yourself emotionally and this will jeopardize any attempt at a relationship that you endeavor. You have to decide if you want to move forward with your life and open yourself up fully to someone or remain stuck in the past.
Jaren Ramirez (5 years ago)
One if the best videos I've seen on this topic
Caleb S (5 years ago)
Real talk

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