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Oprah Winfrey has a superpower. For over 30 years, people who speak to her have not been able to help but to open up, sometimes crying, expressing joy, or just showing the most vulnerable parts of themselves. That ability propelled Oprah to a net worth of four billion dollars not to mention launching books to the top of the bestsellers list and Dr. Phil's television career. So in this video, we are going to explore how and why Oprah is the best connector that I have ever covered on this channel. And you're gonna learn how to live so that people will naturally find themselves opening up and connecting with you. First off, Oprah sets the stage to connect literally.
Unlike many other TV show hosts, she is famous for walking the aisles of her studio audience and for sitting on the same couch as her guests. Later on, she would actually go into their homes for intimate interviews. Now, the lack of physical barriers such as a desk tends to make two people feel more connected and that's why you are more likely to find a spark on a first date if you sit adjacent to your date rather than being separated by a table.
0:33 Set the situation so connecting is easy
1:17 Connect physically and emotionally
2:58 It's easier to open up if there's eye contact
3:29 Actively listen and paraphrase accordingly
4:38 Call out whenever there are commonalities
Oprah makes James Corden cry:
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I always have been able to connect with people and to make them confess easily and without feeling judged, but I didn't really know why, I thought "well I am naturally like that that's all", but with that video I understand better what in my behavior makes me good with relationships with others even strangers, I am an "Oprah-person" ahahah thank you because I feel better about myself, These days I am doubting so much, I needed it. Thanks again !
Ever since I was a child I've had the trouble of connecting with others while it is the thing I want the most. I just didn't know how to but growing up I figured out that I do some things wrong in communication. And this video just taught me the path to communicate correctly. I so happy I came across this video.
I always wondered why everyone loved her so much. Now I understand. Thank you. However, I actually often thought that her intent interest was actually fake. But I would not be able to hold back tears if she came at me either.
I saved a woman's life in 2005. It is likely she does not remember me at all. After I saved her, I promtly left and she never got a chance to get a good look at me, never spoke with me, nor even got my name. This is the way aid should be rendered to everybody. Assist all you can then disappear when things stabilize. I did not know the woman. Why should I have stayed and talked to her after she was no longer in danger? It is never comfortable to talk to a stranger. Well, I was the stranger that saved her. Why subject her to talking to a stranger. I just promptly left.
Great points throughout the video! I think it's also very important to stress out what goes on (presumably) in Oprah's mind during an interview. When she's listening to someone, she's not just making eye contact and furrowing her brow for outward effect, she's also listening and comprehending what the other person has to say. She doesn't just look the part, she puts her undivided attention into the conversation. That's why she naturally comes up with those meaningful personal questions. That's huge and surprisingly rare. My point is, she's mindful during an interview, and mindfulness is a big part of any person's charisma.
When I was in med school, during the intro to clinical medicine section on interviewing, we were specifically directed to observe Oprah's technique. What was specifically praised was her ability to get people to open up. Unfortunately not such was discussed in the way of specific methods, just that she was especially good at it.
If you are a woman that may be fine but if you are a man you will either get beat up go to jail or be embarrassed with a quickness and by the way don't touch me unless you're a woman you can give me some dap and then get the hell back LOL
It was a really nice motivational video bt to b honest i watched it after reading the caption n jst by focusing on an individual way of making sm1 remember u dont think its going to work for evry1. So my suggest is u change the caption or the content of ur video. It really doesnt go wit ur caption bt its jst my opinion.
it's so cool because this was how my best friend and i became best friends. We started talking on the school bus, so we were basically forced to sit on the same side and we made a lot of eye contact and we've asked each other really deep and meaningful questions. We're both really open with our emotions :D
I'm afraid your videos will turn me into a con-man
I feel like I've been acting my entire life. I have chaos and I try to seem normal :D Nobody is better than anyone; I just grew up having my weakness and strengths slapped in my face. For better or worse; I do play people. Never to harm... i dont take from people.. but I see something here that is dangerous for me :D
Just wanted to comment to express my gratitude and appreciation for your videos.I have realized how important charisma really is.As an introvert i have some problems expressing my self and talking to people is not my strong point,but i would love to get better at it.I probably will join your University when i can afford it.
These are all such awesome points for speaking to someone in person. I’d love a video like this but for talking to people on social media. I’m a military spouse so a lot of my friends are all over the world and more of our friendship will be spent apart rather than in the same duty station. I’m an introvert but I love connecting with my friends but sometimes it can be hard when you’re typing into a phone.
"To have someone love you forever, you treat them with love and kindness, not as the new subject to *test* you're newfound tricks upon, you wrong them, as you wrong yourself indeed"
"Threat others as if they are you're world and love, you're missing half self, in time you shall realize that we are all parts if one another, love heart and soul, if you pretend to do so, you will then discover this world is fake, this as *only* you're actions determine you're perspective, while you're focus in which and what, determines what experiences you end up with"
What I see in you however,.is insecurity and fear, and those that fear rlthe world also fear themselves, for whichever reason this might be...
Thus ends my interest in you, in the bright side those not in touch with *the other side of themselves* will never know truly what they've lost.
"Passing judgment is never easy, always painful, as is every responsability easily abused by the weak of mind, body and faith"
Farewell to you
If your an interviewer/host as well you should ask questions related to what they are saying, that lets your get so much deeper with them and it makes people feel as though you truly understand them. That is also a tip you can use for conversation in general.
She's a phony. She uses a practiced formula on everyone, a technique, and it's a perceived idea that she cares; it's a crock. It was a dog & pony show on her program practically everyday. That's how she got $4B out of that crappy show; and from those that believed her act. She's a con.