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Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this video! Consider online counseling by visiting http://betterhelp.com/charisma Discover The 4 Emotions You Need To Make a Killer First Impression: http://bit.ly/2LJPPfx Oprah Winfrey has a superpower. For over 30 years, people who speak to her have not been able to help but to open up, sometimes crying, expressing joy, or just showing the most vulnerable parts of themselves. That ability propelled Oprah to a net worth of four billion dollars not to mention launching books to the top of the bestsellers list and Dr. Phil's television career. So in this video, we are going to explore how and why Oprah is the best connector that I have ever covered on this channel. And you're gonna learn how to live so that people will naturally find themselves opening up and connecting with you. First off, Oprah sets the stage to connect literally. Unlike many other TV show hosts, she is famous for walking the aisles of her studio audience and for sitting on the same couch as her guests. Later on, she would actually go into their homes for intimate interviews. Now, the lack of physical barriers such as a desk tends to make two people feel more connected and that's why you are more likely to find a spark on a first date if you sit adjacent to your date rather than being separated by a table. 0:33 Set the situation so connecting is easy 1:17 Connect physically and emotionally 2:58 It's easier to open up if there's eye contact 3:29 Actively listen and paraphrase accordingly 4:38 Call out whenever there are commonalities Oprah makes James Corden cry: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_GZlUextcAA Connect With Us Further: Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.com Facebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommand Instagram: @CharismaOnCommand Or if you want to see our personal stuff (regular life + playing music): Instagram: @CharlieHoupert Instagram: @IamBenAltman
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JP Visuals (4 months ago)
1. Sitting on the same side of the table. 2. Touch 3. Deep eye contact 4. Asking meaningful questions 5. Validate people when they get emotional 6. Be vulnerable first
Natasha Das (2 days ago)
Perfectly summed up. Personally I have found no. 6 to be the threshold where people open up to me. I tell them a set of "embarrassing things" about myself. Then they get comfortable and start sharing deeper secrets over the period of our contact.
Dat Trump300 (9 days ago)
James Phan - The Random Asian Guy thank you random asian guy
Bankroll Antic (1 month ago)
Hiw buds good but this person a bad person he had better help that just exploits the ones not well in mind looking into it
Productions CEO (1 month ago)
Tks JP!!
Jon Garcia (1 month ago)
These are techniques I use professionally as a nurse!
Katie Irish (17 hours ago)
She's a phony.  She uses a practiced formula on everyone, a technique, and it's a perceived idea that she cares; it's a crock. It was a dog & pony show on her program practically everyday. That's how she got $4B out of that crappy show; and from those that believed her act. She's a con.
Vikas Kundbi (1 day ago)
10:11 Dislike
Diva grace (1 day ago)
i love Ophra she is very kind
InferSader (2 days ago)
Oh man, that BetterHelp part didn't age well...
Dr.OZ dose the same thing...wow
LK 2J (6 days ago)
like the video. should i do this in a job interview? (seriously asking)
YaBoiSadBoi (8 days ago)
Better help is an awful creation for. Use it it’s not only a scam but a corrupt organisation it’s overpriced... Watch pewdiepie’s video on it
Rehan Anwar (9 days ago)
thxxx
Rafael Rivera (10 days ago)
A lot of this is very similar to Humanistic Psychology
thegiftedone110 (12 days ago)
Love this post, so true... Oprah is gifted
TheRedFox BR (13 days ago)
B E T T E R H E L P
Maximilian (13 days ago)
thank you for this content to extend my manipulative powers. <3
TheWiLdOne Daniela (14 days ago)
Oprah an introvert? Really?
buggymind art (14 days ago)
Wow those videos are so interesting, you focuses on strong guidelines with them and with such neutrality that i feel like i can either have a better understanding or become a master manipulator 😂 thanks !
Max SE (14 days ago)
Oh no, not Better help
dan (15 days ago)
*Oprah making people cry for 10 days straight*
Positive Chick (15 days ago)
This is so true. I find it is powerful to connect with people through taking away any barriers that blocks us from making real connections. People can feel a good vibe and the other way around. What I know for sure is that opening up to my own feelings makes people open up so easily and empathizing is key to genuine connections. Great video.
Arman Mehrad (19 days ago)
Hi , This is my first Comment on Ur Channel . First Of all Ur A fucking genius and i study deep your Videos deeply . i think oprah winferey is top negotiator and i really want to see more videos of u analysing her videos , could u do some more please about her skills , because i think she is a women with some real fucking skills
emDawg (19 days ago)
I know that Better Help was genuinely pushed by some youtubers through a genuine effort, for the most part, but honestly.... maybe there should have been a little more research about the company before promoting. It would look less bad now that the whole scheme is unfolding.
emDawg (19 days ago)
As over hyped as Oprah is, she’s still wayyyy underhyped. Thanks for choosing her as an example for this.
Shivanie Ally (20 days ago)
1-3 would make me uncomfortable if I️ were on the flip side But 4-6 is really good
Shivanie Ally (20 days ago)
I️ don’t think I️ can touch ppl like that... I️ mean like even in a platonic way
chandu gayan (20 days ago)
Thank you for this
Quas FM (21 days ago)
@ 1:04 when Oprah went through that weird furry phase.
Lennon Richardson (23 days ago)
This is awesome
Charisma on Command (19 days ago)
~ Thanks, Lennon!
HVoiceComicArtist (24 days ago)
Do you do podcasts? Because I would listen to your podcasts :)
African ARMY (26 days ago)
Even if you're not touching me in a creepy way, I just don't like being touched by strangers. Even just putting your hand on my shoulder makes me uncomfortable
aMSicKMe (26 days ago)
You're videos are fantastic! Have you even asked me to sub? I did not notice if you did. Even offering links to others halfway through. Truly humble.
no name necessary (13 days ago)
EDIT: What even is the purpose of a mental health care app if they don't guarantee even that much as to hire professionals?
no name necessary (13 days ago)
+Daniel Keem I had not. Thanks for pointing it out to me.
Daniel Keem (14 days ago)
Is this ironic? Did you see the betterhelp scandal?
Max (27 days ago)
A very good video! I'd consider myself to be on the less empathetic side of things and I really appreciate getting to learn which "tools" to use in order to have the conversation I want to have.
Fatima Raihan (27 days ago)
Can someone help me? So basically, 2 of my friends, let's call them Ingrid and Lisa, are mutals with other girls in my class. They're both the most liked in my group of friends. I want to be friends with them too, but I'm mostly just ignored when the mutuals and my friends talk to each other. I'm just standing there awkwardly while they talk. It pisses me off sometimes and my mood becomes bad. Anyway, I've been with the same people in my class for a really long time (2-3 years??) so I feel like I can't change and be less shy. Please help 😥
Sparkz Mentalz (27 days ago)
I'm going to use Oprah's power to get more ladies. I'm a dirty, rotten, scumbag scoundrel I know.
Listy (27 days ago)
People open up too much around me. 🤣
BIeX0 (28 days ago)
Better help me downvote. Well - already got it
rev noob (28 days ago)
better help scam
fedoanuja (29 days ago)
If I try to be Oprah in real life I will have to be a shrink forever listening to people's problems all life. Don't want that.thank you
Amazing
A Jim Fan (1 month ago)
"A wild Oprah appeared!" "Oprah used make you cry everytim ;(" "It was super effective." Oprah OP, please nerf.
crimsonrush (1 month ago)
She is so comfortable with monsters like herself.
It kind of is disturbing with the betterhelp scandal to see a betterhelp sponsorship
MADMerry (1 month ago)
I live for this. For connecting with people, making them feel loved, cared for, listened, and help them with tips I've gained from my own experience struggling... Those things come naturally to me but I am here because I want to improve myself, and I am a bit amazed at myself that the things mentioned here, I already do them, I guess I knew intuitively or by observing and subconciously learning them from a really young age. But it was nice to see this, now and then I feel useless, and I have to remind myself that I'm not, that connecting with people like this is a gift that spreads love, compassion and kindness and it has worth. So thank you for reminding me that. Also I never watched Oprah (I'm not from USA) but I think I will now hah, some of those bits made me cry 😆
Matt Duin (1 month ago)
Harvey Weinstein loved how well she could connect with people
Madison Reams (1 month ago)
I don't understand why people who i've gone to school with for so long act like they have never seen me before, i've had people come up to me and ask if i was the new kid when i have been in all their classes for 5 YEARS...I was depressed because of the lack of socialism from the 4th grade to my 9th grade year. I am now in the 10th grade, and I will not let myself be seen as a ghost ANYMORE. This video is amazing at breaking down how she interacts with others. This should be how humans interact all the time! I think it would help resolve a lot of conflicts in our world today.
dcgfhgjnzgfnjcbgn (1 month ago)
Yeah. Touch a woman like that as a man and you wont get sued. Great advice.
HKashaf (1 month ago)
Amy schumer is an introvert?
Lil Vin (1 month ago)
Oh bruh. Better help... Rather, better help me not ty. #Pewdiepie
Danny Meléndez (1 month ago)
HI, COULD YOU DO ONE ABOUT TIFFANY HADDISH?
Education (1 month ago)
This entire thing is about yourself... it's selfish in other words. Being charismatic is not inherently bad, but don't just focus on that because you aren't the center of the universe and others are not objects of your affirmation and/or feeling of power.
BHOPNATION TV (1 month ago)
I love this video!! Thank you.
Charisma on Command (1 month ago)
~ Glad you're loving it!
Newer Account (1 month ago)
@7:14 look at what’s really going on
Newer Account (1 month ago)
Between you and I , I heard she puts her finger in each guests butthole before the show and during the show she wipes her fingers on the guest almost un noticeably, look closely at her finger during the touching/smearing sessions... She often offers gifts inwhich papers need to be signed with the “stinky pinky “ clause hidden within
Newer Account (1 month ago)
She was the first black that many of us seen and she was the BET before BET existed... remember television? Psssshhhhh I don’t give it the power any longer
Marko Dejanović (1 month ago)
I'm crying right now 😢 This is so deep. Fantastic video. One of the best I ever saw 👏
junebugg777 (1 month ago)
Opera is the GOAT
Arvo (1 month ago)
Kill over 6 million people.
aakash singh (1 month ago)
Awesome video Man 😀🤟🤟
Simply Nothing (1 month ago)
Video was fantastic but why... why did you take the sponsorship for better health
I am Alex (1 month ago)
This may sound weird, but I remember someone most when they have a unique name
Richie Lew (1 month ago)
the thing is, a massive part of Oprah's power is that she is a woman. you get that feeling of openness because she gives off this caring mother figure. it is much harder for a man to do it but i dont doubt its possible.
CrystalBallon (1 month ago)
As someone with autism I learned myself how to connect with people and it litterly works the way Opera does it. For people with autism these social things don't work like this so we have to learn them in order to communicate well with other people.
Makimak3 (1 month ago)
Do not use Betterhelp. It's not a substitute for real therapy.
Ahmed Maooda (1 month ago)
i cried
Gawdess ross (1 month ago)
Great vid. Glad I found you. The edits took nothing away.
AesInk (1 month ago)
I need to start doing this, but I’m too distant
Senseless Nonsense (1 month ago)
Question: Can you make an explication of how to know when to do this kind of interaction vs a confrontational like Joe Rogan??
Vicky Laguna (1 month ago)
So dope
Neo Armstrong (1 month ago)
The title of this video should be "how to remember Oprah for a lifetime" hehe
Rachel Karr (1 month ago)
When it comes to men towards women... Not a creepy rapist vibe touch she won't forget you but for the wrong reason. And don't have a constant stare in her eyes and not blink or look away AT ALL. That's serial killer shit.
Kendra Williams (1 month ago)
A LEGEND!
Jenifer ly (1 month ago)
Just like you mentioned in the video, touching does come across creepy if there's too much, especially for people that values their personal space
succeedwme123 (1 month ago)
she focuses on what they have in common not differences and exttremely touch and nurturing
succeedwme123 (1 month ago)
she is so amazing to be able to bring people to tears to open up and bond and get emotionally real and is supportive and truly caring and empathetic with her guests and values them and shares in their pain and compliments them a lot relates to them increadibly
succeedwme123 (1 month ago)
Opera is a powerhouse very touchy n eye contact and you can see she is trul y knowledgible and really cares very easy going and down to earth is a true expert at connecting to her guests and works moving people emotionally!! Amazing gifts a must see!
JamiAndMarla LOVE (1 month ago)
Always a good example! Oprah has much to teach!
Connie Cleveland (1 month ago)
That's not working. As I maneuver through my life being the mistake and Walkalone connected with someone. There no way.
يأتي الخير من قلب المعاناة. Good comes from the heart that suffered. 💜💜💜
Anita S. (1 month ago)
So this is my social-not-awkward list at the moment: 1. thouch the person in a way, that doesn't feel forced 2. learn to be confident with eye contact and use it to seem genuenly interessted in them 3. BE genuenly interessted in what they have to say, remember that everybody is an expert in something, everybody can teach you something important 4. listen more than you talk, if you can than let the other person talk about themselves because we are all interested in oursselves more than in others and afterall our favorite topic is our life 5. go from smaltalk to real conversations as fast as you can, talk about things that matter not about how bad the weather is 6. lead the conversation to the point, where the other person talks about his/her feelings 7. connect to the person on an emotional level, talk about things that you have in common 8. make genuen and specific compliments but be sure not to make it awkward by doing this to often 9. break the tension with a joke if you did make it awkward 10. anyway, make jokes, be happy, be funny 11. stop complaining 12. be enthusiastic in a way that will make other people be it to 13. be exited about life, start leaving your home and do something, anything 14. worry less about how awkward a conversation can end. After all you re still ahead of all those people, who never bothered to even try 15. talk about you own fears/problems/insecurities if needed, this will help the person open up and trust you 16. be genuenly good hearted and kind even if you think that the person doesnt deserves it. It can work wonders, if you just sit down and actually listen to peoples problems and outbursts while really trying to understand why they feel this way. *Humans are driven by emotions and not my logic after all* Show some empathy. People feel great if you value their opinions as much as you value yours. Seriously.
The Unsung Architect (1 month ago)
This might be my favourite video after the 6 types of mcu charisma one. Granted, ive been looking for that pointer of sitting adjacent to a date for weeks now... XD but still, I love it, and I dont even watch oprah.
Charisma on Command (1 month ago)
~ Glad to hear you're loving it!
MotivatorAligator (1 month ago)
Unfortunately the people here in Germany mostly are so cold and never let go their emotions,but we are all human beings and that´s why I will still trying that here!!
wheat bread (1 month ago)
better help = scam. avoid unless you want your money stolen. google is your friend.
Nic ola (1 month ago)
well.. we have to really capture what goes on within a person... that is the central ability it needs... which in not just coming through watching one video.. also: looking intensely at people can be quite intruding. AND: the video is great.
Nani Marieajesiah (1 month ago)
wow, I legit do all of these things frequently. I've heard that an empaths greatest gift is their pain, it exudes understanding, allows connection&healing, ultimately resulting in world healing asé. many people simply want to be heard and validated. you can tell when it is coming from the inner child vs ego, because a child will speak truthfully and simply ask, be open, &show vulnerability, whereas ego will manipulate recieving a false form of validation hurts the seekers ego even more. ok goodnight {☆ it's nice to suit the cycle
ClassRoutines (2 months ago)
We also view Oprah in Australia & admire her. Like. Please visit me.
maymaylingling (2 months ago)
she's genuine !!!
exhibitjean (2 months ago)
If Oprah looked like a model, most women would hate her. Its funny how ranges of "beauty" can be a blessing or curse. Not saying she's bad looking, just saying how society would treat people differently just by your looks. Despite that, she is a very talented woman.
sharp937 (2 months ago)
uh oh, the betterhelp..
STILL WATERS (2 months ago)
Feelings make me uncomfortable
JL (2 months ago)
I never noticed this about Oprah.
Amber Whoah (2 months ago)
-I think Oprah being a saggitarius moon also has a lot to do w/ if . A lot of us are like that
Live life To the fullest (2 months ago)
she’s aquarius... as aquarian’s this is one of our best qualities. we connect with people naturally
Joseph Maleiuch (2 months ago)
Give them aids or any other life threatening stds
Bliss WKC (2 months ago)
Thank You so much dearest 💐 You’re such an inspiration ❣️ Be Blissful Eternally 🙏😇💖🕉
Erica Ross (2 months ago)
I was watching norm MacDonald has a show (Netflix) and the third show was judge Judy. Norm had this thing where he repeats something to his side kick; Judge Judy called him out for it and he went from doing it 2-3 times in the last two shows to getting interrupted once by her. I'd like to see a break down on either of the two.
Thanam (2 months ago)
God I Love Oprah, missed those days watching her show. ❤️
Miri Alina (2 months ago)
Wow, I´m so amazed! I watch a lot of You Tube videos and most of the time I think that I didn´t learn anything. Maybe there was information but it didn´t really catch me. And THIS video really taught me something, a lot of information, not boring, examples,... THANK YOU! That´s a masterpiece! :-)
Charisma on Command (1 month ago)
~ Glad to hear that :-)
samanda k (2 months ago)
i have so much to say and hope there is someone to lisrn
samanda k (2 months ago)
i lov you Oprah hope to meet you 1day
Mia Harmon (2 months ago)
When someone starts acting this way towards me, I get uncomfortable and start backing off, fumbling around
HowTingz (2 months ago)
Oprah could interview Satan, make him cry and be like, “I'm not a bad guy, I don't like being this way really. I just miss God so much." Then Oprah's like, “Well Satan, here's your chance to work on making amends. Here's God. God please come to the stage." Then they'd embrace, sit on the couch and cry and open up together.

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