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Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this video! Consider online counseling by visiting http://betterhelp.com/charisma Discover The 4 Emotions You Need To Make a Killer First Impression: http://bit.ly/2LJPPfx Oprah Winfrey has a superpower. For over 30 years, people who speak to her have not been able to help but to open up, sometimes crying, expressing joy, or just showing the most vulnerable parts of themselves. That ability propelled Oprah to a net worth of four billion dollars not to mention launching books to the top of the bestsellers list and Dr. Phil's television career. So in this video, we are going to explore how and why Oprah is the best connector that I have ever covered on this channel. And you're gonna learn how to live so that people will naturally find themselves opening up and connecting with you. First off, Oprah sets the stage to connect literally. Unlike many other TV show hosts, she is famous for walking the aisles of her studio audience and for sitting on the same couch as her guests. Later on, she would actually go into their homes for intimate interviews. Now, the lack of physical barriers such as a desk tends to make two people feel more connected and that's why you are more likely to find a spark on a first date if you sit adjacent to your date rather than being separated by a table. 0:33 Set the situation so connecting is easy 1:17 Connect physically and emotionally 2:58 It's easier to open up if there's eye contact 3:29 Actively listen and paraphrase accordingly 4:38 Call out whenever there are commonalities Oprah makes James Corden cry: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_GZlUextcAA Connect With Us Further: Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.com Facebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommand Instagram: @CharismaOnCommand Or if you want to see our personal stuff (regular life + playing music): Instagram: @CharlieHoupert Instagram: @IamBenAltman
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Gabriel Ximenes (4 hours ago)
this is the best video in this channel
Q Huynh (21 hours ago)
“Taken out of a party on a stretcher. Lol”
My mom studied child development and she learnt that one of the most important asset to the mental development of a baby is physical connection and affection
nicolas camino (2 days ago)
Logic teaching me how to be nice
Zach Atkinson (3 days ago)
It’s called “being an ENFJ” - she’s no introvert!
Zach Atkinson (3 days ago)
I am one too, I would know!
Democrat Terminator (3 days ago)
Plot twist Oprah is a predator
Q Huynh (21 hours ago)
Democrat Terminator omg. Nooooohhh. I would give up on humanity when that day comes.
Racquel Robinson (4 days ago)
Pharrel: Why am I crying on Oprah? Me: Everyone cries on Oprah. Oprah goes to other people's show and make them cry. I have now started a notebook dedicated to this channel and now, this will be my first entry. What you are doing is amazing and I just want to say I'm grateful for it. For a long time, i thought all I had to do was be jovial but you taught me so much. For years and struggled with making friends because I was 'weird' (Although everyone is different) and now that I'm okay with me, I want to try again. Please keep working hard.
MrCuddlesWorth (6 days ago)
Date- "I had the best coffee today!" Me- *Grabbing her foot* "That's awesome, would you say your childhood was somewhat... disturbing?" Date- ...
vsn10lvn (6 days ago)
Amazing chanel! LOVE IT!!!
Lina (6 days ago)
I want a compilation of Oprah making people cry
Riverness Mariposa (7 days ago)
I could be wrong but it seems in our culture today, this style works better for women than men?
This is actually my biggest fear. I would way rather be invisible but I'm making progress by trying to watch this🙆‍♀️
Rule your mind (9 days ago)
Oprah is a powerhouse with a beautiful soul.
aywancfc (11 days ago)
I noticed she likes to mimic the posture of her guests. It’s super interesting, like she picks up on their sense of self so to speak. This was a great video, thank you 🙏 :)
Mel Gon (11 days ago)
Here’s the big question for me. How do you relate to people and try to commiserate with people in a genuine way without looking like you are “one upping” them? If someone says “I’m an introvert” and you say “Me too!” And then you both go on to talk about it, I end up feeling like I took their moment from them. Does that make sense? I didn’t realize how amazing Oprah was at this. She’s not my cup of tea politically but, she’s powerful with people! She made ME cry by saying “every father has a dream”. Omgosh. Thank you.
Henry Cullen (13 days ago)
John Mayer video please...
Kim Byington (13 days ago)
It's because Oprah is INFJ we are truly interested & THAT connects you!
awood9214 (13 days ago)
Psychologists need to study this
Everything was great, until you started to promote Betterhelp. I hope you know, that it's a fraud?
Dgsd (14 days ago)
Oprah is a great mirror and mimic.
Silver Bat (14 days ago)
Hi, I've just discovered your videos and as someone who means well and cares a lot about others but often comes across either as too introverted, or too strong or falls back on sarcasm, a lot of this advice is very helpful. I've seen your no more toxic people video but I was wondering if you have advice for dealing with sexual assault, especially in the workplace. This can alienate you from friends and co-workers even though you were the subject of the harassment, especially if you come forward (which is most likely the best thing to do for your own psychological well-being). Could you touch upon this subject and/or what to do if someone is actually abusive in their behavior toward you?
Shalet Jimmy (14 days ago)
loved it...Thanks a lot
Guinevere O'Riley (14 days ago)
Great listeners are gifts from heaven. From the clip with Rihanna, Lindsay and the guy after her who asked himself "why am I crying on Ophrah?" (don't know his name, sorry lmao), I can almost feel how vulnerable they are and how good Oprah really is.
SJtheMFZB (15 days ago)
Shard (15 days ago)
How about a video on how to energize through social interaction, for an introvert, and how to energize through solitary thought, for an extrovert? I recognize where I tend to fall on this spectrum, but would love to grow and relate to the other side of the spectrum.
Danika Raison (15 days ago)
Oprah is basically a very famous successful and extra rich therapist for famous successful and extra rich people
Nadia Mo (16 days ago)
I love how you breakdown talk show host styles. I would love a video on Ellen’s hosting style. I’m really curious how she gets actors to play games and how she’s able to scare actors on her show and they still come back to the show another time!
Twin Flame Music (16 days ago)
@Charisma Are you a Psychology student? at University?? If not: I believe you should be! Psychotherapy & Analysis - Practical Applications
Kat Guthrie (17 days ago)
I don’t think I’ve even seen a whole episode of Oprah but if she sat next to me and said I was “so good” I would cry like a baby
Dynamic Gorgon 39 (17 days ago)
Im a simple man, I see a video about making memorable impressions; and I click on it to reverse the formula, and apply it to my person.
brayden witte (17 days ago)
What. A. Video.
Dudeist Priest (17 days ago)
Whoa, those Oprah clips got me tearing up.
Sara Meira Gootblatt (17 days ago)
what an emotionally manipulative person... I can't stand Oprah. yeah... I'm not American.
playandrepeat (17 days ago)
I feel like Oprah can get away with these things, but if I did them, I'd just look like a creep
playandrepeat (17 days ago)
I hate it when people I don't know touch me
DestinyC1020 (18 days ago)
Omg you've nailed Oprah! She truly does have a gift. And love her or hate her, you can't help but notice that she really does have the gift of drawing people out and allowing them to feel safe enough to be their TRUE genuine selves around her. I hope to be more like that with my close family and friends. :)
kaitlyn hames (18 days ago)
i subscribed! im aspiring to be a psychologist and i think this channel will really help with that
Bria Petway (18 days ago)
I cried just watching this video
J Cat (18 days ago)
Oprah is a clinical psychologist😁
can you do an episode on Joe Rogan?
HKN Lee (18 days ago)
Oprah? Sorry. I pass.
ryehaaan (18 days ago)
oprah is introvert?? :o
Rebecca Jackson (18 days ago)
If you feel genuine warmth and love for people as well as being truly present in life you will do all of these things automatically! ❤️ xxxxx Practice self love and meditation 🧘‍♂️ xxxx
lester chua (19 days ago)
4 billion dollars? She is almost 4 times as rich as Trump!
Gabie Noe (19 days ago)
Operah? More like Open Up am I right?
elle (19 days ago)
I don’t like ppl touching me, invading my personal space... esp. if I just met you?
Starr love (19 days ago)
Ok the girl i take my class with is Oprah then, i talked to her for the first time and she really got my to open up to her, she does the high fives really connects with just anyone she talks to.
eXwade (19 days ago)
It's beyond ridiculous how good this channel is... I'm blown away at how much I'm learning from you, and how much of an insight in to my own insecurities I'm gaining, as well as figuring out ways to battle and overcome them. Thanks a million!
ADELEN (21 days ago)
I'm crying just watching this
juicy peaches (22 days ago)
it’s because you will get way further with people getting interested in them rather than trying to get them interested in you. she genuinely cares about these peoples’ stories
Pintu (23 days ago)
Hey I'm an introvert too!
Ra7 Ana (23 days ago)
Thinking of trying all these tricks on my boss. Just not sure how they will take the touching part.
Trey Bloomfield (24 days ago)
Joe Biden liked this video
Chats With Flo (25 days ago)
Great information. I just joined your community. 👍🏾
Charisma on Command (23 days ago)
~ Welcome to the channel!
al hurra (25 days ago)
hello there make a video on bts (korean boy band) too i mean on the member jimin he is really a magnet to men and women ....please
Eryngium (27 days ago)
you should remove this video and re-upload it without better-help advertisement if you even has a shred of conscience, disgusting.
It’s that Louisiana in us
KT Kee (28 days ago)
5:14 How the hell is Oprah's an introvert? She's literally spent her life being on show and dealing with people, hell for any introvert.
Tajda Valenčič (28 days ago)
Well there are different types of introverts. Some people (myself included) are introverts, but can still be social. We are better in one-on-one conversations and less in groups. But after all that socializing we do need some alone time, to ''fill our batteries''. I hope I made some sense.
Mohamed Ibrahim Amin (1 month ago)
A brilliant one. Thanks Charisma on Command.
Savio Dias (1 month ago)
Tears sell, so she'll drain it all out and earn more money, and power
Happy Michie Worriah (1 month ago)
Cool rock
Happy Michie Worriah (1 month ago)
Sarah Ichi (1 month ago)
Why am I tearing up? damn it Oprah.
Hana Rosé (1 month ago)
She is so freakin inspiring! Just being present to people is the biggest gift to give
twiceousaurer '-' (1 month ago)
in conclusion I want her to be my mom
Project Create (1 month ago)
My mom is like this and all of my friends call them her mom lol. I guess that's why?? Plus she feeds EVERYONE when ever they come over lol
breakaway2x (1 month ago)
Today's world underrates "touch". We are not allowed to touch anymore because we live in such a hypersensitive, overblown, overreacting defensive society. Touch is the most natural and authentic form of communication that existed long before language or verbal communication existed. Touch is powerful, healthy, and connecting. Touch gives life and healing, love and power. It is so sad that we are forbidden to touch anymore because of all the fears they have conditioned us to worry about.
WithOpinions (1 month ago)
i like physical affection but if i did it to people they’d probably find it weird meanwhile oprah is a celebrity so people don’t mind it lol
Alia Wilkinson (1 month ago)
I think touching protocol should be taught in schools or elsewhere. Unfortunately there are a lot of people who inappropriately touch sexually. When they get caught, they deny it, and other people tend to think about it like “Oh no, that could be me!” when the reality is that if it’s a normal arm touch/hug/whatever, it’s totally fine. A good rule of thumb is to touch people you’re attracted to the same as you would someone you weren’t attracted to. I’ve been sexually harassed at work before with inappropriate comments and touches, but my current boss grabs my shoulders and touches my arms pretty frequently, and I’ve never felt uncomfortable. Just don’t grab T&A or make sexual comments at people at work, and you’ll be fine. It’s usually that simple.
shy _af (1 month ago)
You know the sitting opposite facing one other, it really works. After watching this, I realised how many people have opened themselves up, especially when you make storing eye contact. Which I often do when I talk to someone. But when I immediately look away, somehow the other person will feel rejected and won't be as comfortable or safe to express.
Dan Johnston (1 month ago)
tbh James Cordon turns on the water works all the time. I don't think that he's a particularly genuine character.
Michael Azarov (1 month ago)
OMG i had no idea she is so amazing
Der Fuchs (1 month ago)
I guess shitting on people's dishes while they are eating them is pretty effective
Iron Patriot Gamer (1 month ago)
Better helps expensive
Super Lufc (1 month ago)
James corden is the most disingenuous person I have ever seen on tv.
If ANYONE touches my belly whilst I am pregnant, they will get the wrath of me.
keep pushing (1 month ago)
:57 Oprah had a donk back in the day 😂
Forrest Toyne (1 month ago)
I had to talk a course in the basics of counseling, and this video basically summarizes everything we learned.
Shoofles (1 month ago)
I've learned to do this over the years in retail and a recent stint in management. I'm an introvert, but I'm also unable to hide my love that I can immediately feel for another human.. these oprah tactics can often bring many customers or acquaintances to think im flirting with them, unfortunately. I've had plenty continually ask to marry me and will stalk me.
Anneloes Barth (1 month ago)
The touching is also a cultural thing, wouldn't be acceptable in my culture no matter who it is. It would make people very uncomfortable.
Pecker Rocker (1 month ago)
Oprah has some serious psychic ability
Jheyanneify (1 month ago)
U cant b touching on co workers
s. j. (1 month ago)
Easier :hurt them and they never forget you .
SquattinCassanova (1 month ago)
People won't remember what you said or did but how you made them feel.
Proxytale 101 (1 month ago)
Adam Warlock (1 month ago)
Its not hard to get celebrities or even middle to upper classes to open up. Opera doesnt get credit for doing that.
Bonnie Rabbit (2 months ago)
Me: damn this video was so good.... Charlie: And that’s why I’m excited to sponsor...BETTERHELP. everyone: ohhhh noooooooo....whyyy Charlie...WHYYYYYYYYYY
ChaseFace (2 months ago)
This is pretty much only relevant if you're a female politician/celebrity. This would never fly for men, we get called creepy for trying to have a sincere moment with anyone, even if it's just eye contact or a light touch on the shoulder.
Natalie (12 days ago)
yes, and sometimes that's just true. there are things men can do (I wouldn't know), but I'm sure you can look at admirable male celebrities who aren't creepy
Kamill Litkowiec (2 months ago)
Nobody have to remember you. For what? Really important is what you are and who. If somebody like you or would like to remember you it is nkt your business.
Anne Prestige (2 months ago)
By back stabbing them.
Poop Brain (2 months ago)
this is the same reason why joe biden is known as creepy joe.
Macantash (2 months ago)
oprah is an empath.
Monica Gangmei (2 months ago)
Okay so she's basically the therapist but in the television
Tejus Wadbudhe (2 months ago)
Thank you
stilltypical (2 months ago)
When a Charismatic person (me) is talking to another Charismatic person (a popular girl) oh boy it feels like a battle in making each other feel positive aha
stilltypical (2 months ago)
I was so charismatic to a girl and other girls, this one girl said your literally a magnet and are so good with people aha
nirvana at last (2 months ago)
my dude watches captain midnight 👌
Mara Ligia (2 months ago)
Amazing 👏👏
Ebony White (2 months ago)
What I really need is Oprah's hair!
Tortoise Lover (2 months ago)
Ohhh man she's good. I felt like she was my bff after just seeing clips of her interacting with other people. Is that just me or is that really a thing

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