Do you ever feel like the fear of rejection is holding you back?...
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Like maybe there's someone that you would have really liked to ask out, someone that you've had your eye on for a long time, but when you think about asking them out you think about them maybe saying no. Rejecting you. So you don't even want to try. Or maybe you're an artist of some kind and you'd like to share your art, you'd like to publish it, you'd like to maybe even pursue it as a career... for me, this was writing.
But, when you think about being criticized or rejected for that art, you don't even want to throw your hat in the ring. If that's something that you can relate to, the good news is that you don't have to continue to relate to it because there's people in the world that are basically immune to rejection!
They don't feel it in the same way that you might, and they don't fear it. And the only difference between them and someone who has issues with rejection that were kind of fears it is the way that they perceive it in their mind and that's what we're covering today.
How can you make those quick little rejection tweaks? They're gonna make rejection kind of feel like something that just rolls off your back like nothing at all!
Rejection Mindsets and Strategies:
0:57 Think of a time that you have been rejected exercise.
1:15 Disassociate yourself from the rejection.
2:44 Broaden your perspective and goals of being rejected.
4:20 Success is a numbers game (roll the dice).
5:50 STOP using the word "Rejection"
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My go-to strategy for handling rejection is remembering that it’s happened before and I’ve gotten over it before so it’s no big deal. It’s like being bulletproof, if being bulletproof meant getting shot multiple times till it didn’t bother you as much. :)
Dude i just cant i have been in same class with that girl whole high school and ik that first 2 years she prob think't of me that im some off nerd since shes kinda a bitchy type of a girl and prob doesn't like that type of guys but idk 3rd and 4th year of high school i just got into my looks and that stuff and noticed X times that she looks at me with that *I want you* look bu still idk im scared to ask her any thing since i didn't talk much with her in high school and now when high school is over now im even more confused and i don't know how and in what whey ask her to go out side with me one some date.
The key part of this video is the segment on it being a numbers game.
You really do have to just the roll the dice a hell of a lot more than everyone else around you and come to terms with luck being a factor.
Absolutely love that part.
Honestly this video is filled with advice, but as someone who feels like they’re on a bit of a cusp of a charisma breakthrough, these videos are basically inspiration porn. Thank you all so much for making these and making them available for everyone!
Charlie, i really love your videos, they been a really great help, first to endure a really hard situation and long depressión, and now to build my self and make my future step by step.
really thanks 4 everything.
This all seems like good advice but there's one issue that I don't think it addresses. When it comes to dating, it's a number game, but when you factor in social opportunities to find someone who you're genuinely attracted to, whatever standards you might have (which you discussed) and a connection; each rejection could mean many months alone. If you ask too many people, you will get a bad reputation. You can certainly spend that time on self improvement but you can end up sinking into a bad place between opportunities, wondering why you are the kind of person who is single all the time. Maybe it's just social circumstances that make opportunities spaced and rejections stick with you or maybe it's character or social status. It's something that troubles me a lot either way.
Thanks again Charlie! "Rejection = someone looking at you in totality as a person and saying 'not worthy' ". As soon as I heard that I realized "wait that's not even possible in a job interview because they cannot know anyone in totality as a person within that short time frame". I see how much of a fallacy "rejection" actually is. Wish I could give you a hug right now. You have no idea (or maybe you do) of how much this means to me. I wish I had found your channel sooner. Would've saved me a lot of heartache.
Dude , you really nailed some problems, I am
Struggling with for years.
When I read your comments people are very great full for what your doing. So am I .
Why don't u open a PayPal( or something like that ) account so people can donate.
I I'm not that kind of person who will buy a lecture , but I wil donate something after I heard something good . I think a lot of people wil do
Recently was not selected for two different jobs.At first it felt very personal but this video has helped me see the truer picture.I will continue to seek other opportunities without the fear of rejection ^_^
I'm a licensed therapist and I feel like I get so much from this channel. Very great content that actually sticks in my mind! I apply so much of this to my life. I rephrased "rejection" to "it wasn't a good fit." Thanks again, Charlie.
I love how specific you are in your explanations. From time to time I am afraid of "rejection" but over the years I have learned that, we only live once, so we need to be the best us that we can be, and try to live without regret. Later on in life there will be things we regret not doing, all simply because we were afraid of being "rejected". Because what's more important? Being rejected or being yourself and taking chances on things like asking someone out that you like, or going after a job? Always be yourself and take some chances. This video reminded me of that because recently I've been too afraid to ask out a guy that I am quite smitten with. Thank you for another great life experience video.
Indeed, feeling inspired to re-try some previous "rejection" scenarios, thanks, man! I need some clarity on one or two points first, though. Sent you an email with details...I hope that's cool? Thanks again!
i’m sorry this has nothing to do with the content of this video but i just wanted to say i just found this channel recently and binged a ton of your vids, and i’ve learned a lot from them so thank you for being a great teacher!! i’ve been so obsessed w watching these half because the information is extremely useful and half because i’ve more or less developed a crush on charlie😂😂🙈
well a would totally tell him how i feel but am scared of telling him around his friends thats the problem can u plz make a video of that i mean theres people scared of that to so plz make a video of that i need to know how to get him alone or how to not to be scared of confessing infront off his friends or something like that plz make the video i need to know what to do plz😥😥😥
I've been dealing with rejection from familly... It's hard enough when outsiders reject you, but to have your own blood reject you.. that's what really hurt.. followed by rejection from the church and my in laws...
I just want to say thank you.. for the first time in weeks I feel a sense of hope again.. It's hard for me to disaccociate myself naturally because i wa taught otherwise.. but you're right.. that rejection word is tied to our sense of self worth. I am worthy.. And I'll keep going ... because i am good enough... thank you mr. Charisma =)
Dude you are practically correct !
You talk sense unlike the other "how to fuck girls on the first meeting" misleading stuff !
Understandably put !
Good job !
Can't believe that you had rejections at some point too lol !
I was a guy that would never get rejected wouldn't fear anything but I've had three rejections in a row and then dated a girl who simultaneously had a boyfriend and lied to me.It's been a bumpy road I had crazy amounts of confidence but now I just don't feel it in me.
I understand you completely and can relate. In my case, i've dated about 5 times in my life and got cheated on every time. It's sad and it's bringing me down but i've always had the objective of being married to a faithful and good person so i'll keep on going.
Please do a breakdown about Dua Lipa. She's so fascinating - and I've found out recently that many people felt this way about her too - but I can't quite figure out what is it that makes her so. Or maybe a video about these kind of people in general - that are not the most obvious kind of attraction but given to their style/attitude end up to be magnetic.