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How To Get Respect Without Being A Bully - Jordan Peterson
Jordan Peterson recently expertly handled a debate during an interview with BBC's Channel 4 news (The video was called: Jordan Peterson debate on the gender pay gap, campus protests and postmodernism). And JBP did it without being a bull or being aggressive. So how do we get respect without being a bully? Well, we often think that getting respect and being aggressive go hand in hand. Because unfortunately, it’s often the bully that gets the most respect in the schoolyard and even in the workplace. But Jordan Peterson is an exemplar of a different way to generate massive amount of respect. So in this video we’re going to explore 3 main things he does that force people to respect you WITHOUT being a bully.
Now, we focused a lot on respect in this video but that's actually just one out of four emotions that are going to create an amazing first impression on anyone cross-culturally. Now, if you're curious with the other three emotions that you want to create in that person are to make an amazing first impression, I made a video on that that breaks down what those four emotions are so that you can start using them today to consistently make killer first impressions.
0:30 Jordan Peterson calls it "pacing your reality"
4:50 Jordan Peterson tells stories effectively
6:54 Jordan Peterson uses archetypal stories
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+Sciurus Rubrum Charisma is the crutch of those devoid of truth or reason. An effective one to be sure but it doesn't make them purveyors of truth or logic - it just makes them sound reasonable and salubrious.
+Leah Davidson Your assertion is completely correct however that's beside the point of this video. The point of this video is to learn Peterson's tricks and tactics in order to guard against them and use them to your advantage in order to deprogram his weak-minded anti-feminist, anti-trans and anti-SJW followers.
One can still be persuasive even if their entire ideology is wrong, evil or faulty - as Peterson's is. That's the power of charisma. Understand that lesson and you can convince anyone of anything. It's up to you whether you use it for right or wrong.
The question about where are the Nazi's is hilarious! LMAO The Info Wars person saw the Charlottesville march just like everyone else in the country and KNOWS there are Nazi's among us. Yet he asks the question as if they don't exist! LMAO Racists are funny! :D
Peterson abhors socialism and all its forms, yet socialism's growing stronger every day and he's converted almost no-one. There's a lot to be said for ridicule. If one holds a destructive position, especially a position destructive to the rest of us, they deserve derision and to be laughed at (not with). Nothing ends stupidity faster than humorous derision. Mean? You bet. Effective? More effective than any other technique (when accurately applied). Making fun of correct positions tends to backfire. Ask any of the late-night hosts who've destroyed their careers attacking the correct Trump for three-years? But when accurately applied, nothing tops derision for ending stupidity.
You have no place demanding a damn thing unless you've earned it.
If you've earned it, you will never feel the need to demand it, because no one capable of earning respect could be that constantly needy.
SOMEWHERE around here, it's worth pointing out that bullies tend not to get respect... AND for the TV-history fan's... I'd actually cite "The Andy Griffith Show"...
Sheriff Andy Taylor grew popularity as the Sheriff who didn't carry a gun... as in ever. He handled them from time to time when it was only too prudent to do so. He wasn't afraid of them. AND on more than one episode, he explained his reasoning.
"You see, if I carry a gun everywhere, I have to wonder if the people I meet actually respect me and the badge I wear... OR if they only fear the gun I carry. I'd much rather they respect me as a man, and their sheriff. I don't want anyone to have to fear me for the gun I wear." -Sheriff Andy Taylor, Mayberry, NC...
AND finally, just on that same line of logic, "respect vs. fear"... We (out in "the sticks") have a word for the kind of person who has to carry a firearm everywhere he/she goes, all day, every day... "Coward". ;o)
I don’t agree with the first point. No one is neutral. People who claim neutrality are deceiving themselves OR they are trying to deceive you into thinking they’re neutral. Everyone has their presuppositions i.e., their basic commitment to what they believe, rational or irrational.
Therefore if you disagree with a position but act like you don’t to find “common ground,” you are being intellectually dishonest.
The more effective way to respond to your opponent when engaging in a debate is to reason by way of internal critique. Let them tell you the reasons they believe what they believe and then kindly expose the fallacies and inconsistencies which will reveal the inner tension and folly of their position.
I think it’s funny how Jordan Peterson breaks down pretty much everything that any person needs to make it through life and keep their sanity and then you come and translate it for everyone into something they can grasp :-D it’s like reading a manual to a textbook :-D don’t get me wrong, this is not me trying to be mean, just find this amusing :) I do like the content you make :)
It's about pride. Don't be so proud that you can't be wrong, that you can't learn to think a different way. They say, "know what you want", the opposite of that would be "keep an open mind". They are both positive statements but you have to choose the best average for the particular moment.
Wow. Just a shocking and horrific "WOW" as my response.
This video blows past the most simplistic method (used by the US military, btw) to get respect thereby building trust. (Massive amounts!) Then the video makes it more difficult to get respect by laying down steps to complex systems of gaining respect. Jordan Peterson's methods work and are effective, but these methods blow past the easiest method to get respect! The easiest method comes from Social Exchange Theory or the Exchange Paradigm and it works like this...
First: LISTEN to someone you want to gain respect from. The act of listening shows that you value their opinion and you are giving them your time and your undivided attention: both of these have value. Everyone wants to be listened to and this is another reason this works. Asking questions is a part of listening because, if the person isn't talking, then you can't listen: continue asking questions and listen until you are certain you understand the person. All these reasons for listening explains why interrupting is so destructive to conversations and blocks earning respect/building trust.
Second: ENCOURAGE/SUGGEST. Based on what you have understood by listening, encourage the person in a specific direction or make a suggestion. You are now offering further value to the person and the expectation is now for reciprocity. If the reciprocity of respect is not offered then return to the first step by asking more appropriate questions. Yes, sometimes people do not want to give respect and, as Jordan Peterson said, you cannot force it; but, you can let the person know you are interested in their respect by continuing to give them your time and giving encouragement and making suggestions. It is truly that simple. We can add Jordan Peterson's steps to this process, but these two steps come before anything else. Listen and then Encourage/Suggest.
Peter really adds colour to this black and white driven society... and validating, respecting, listening and understanding every individuals unique opinions, thoughts and feelings (including your very own- that's self-respect and self-validation) is absolutely key.
I don't know about anyone else but it seems like this guy (Jordan Peterson, not the narrator) says a whole lot of...nothing. Someday he'll meet someone who won't take him so seriously and he won't know what tf to do with himself.
The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haidt is a perfect follow up to this video— It breaks down why people believe the things they do, and from there will make you more effective at communicating with people on both sides of the political spectrum. Could not recommend enough.
Never Retreat from your opinion, open your mind to the possibility of change yes. But there has to be more than just a compelling argument let's face it a used car salesman can make a compelling argument and then take everything you have and leave you with a shitbox. Anybody is capable of changing your mind if you are subscribed tble. Listen for truth never make up your mind on the spot do your own research know the subject that you're talking about if you are unfamiliar with that subject say I cannot in any way make a commitment to what you're saying right now can we agree to meet at another time. If they refuse then they are basically full of you-know-what. If they say absolutely I would love and look forward to it then do your research carefully judge your mind and your feelings and your heart based on what you know and what you will learn. There's nothing wrong with changing your mind and opening your heart to new and better experiences. Don't be fooled by used car salesman.
If only Donald Trump would have watched this video a few months ago, maybe the government wouldn't have had the shutdown. Of course then the question you might ask is why would Donald Trump even care to watch this video? And the answer might be because he cares enough about accomplishing his goals to realize that he needs to get people who don't like him or even flat-out I want to see him destroyed to work with him, and this might be the best way to do it.
Sometimes humans live in periods of conflict, where a dominating type of person will be necessary to rally the troops and keep the enemy at bay. But most of the time, humans live in periods of productivity, where you need organizers, scientists, and teachers. I don't think the periods of conflict are as important to history as the periods of productivity, because the human brain applied to problems is more important than the hand holding a sword.
Of course, humans also apply the thinking process to conflict. Caesar was victorious in battle not because of ferocity, but because he utilized combat engineers. But combat engineering is not nearly as creative as agricultural science, or modern civilian technologies. Today, our defense industries are followers of our consumer industries.
ThE quote on quote may not make the person change opinion but i see how can make the people waching change opinion because nobody wants to stay on the side of the bump and the loser, here in brazil two youtubers , mama falei e Kim Kataguiri how make the quote on quote method just get elected to public office. because when you make the other look dump you make youself look inteligent ... not that the peterson method is not good.
You know the stuff with the crowd is exactly the same thing I would do with my club sometimes. I mean exactly, students can a little passionate lol Aaa ... and mostly it was the chicks there were badass
A yelling debate like an old episode of I Love Lucy is a turn off for me.
Blocking opposing opinions on Twitter leads me to show little respect to the one blocking. It shows their arguments are weak or poorly researched.
Yet Jordan actually said that real atheists were murderers and the people who say they are atheists weren't real ones, but hidden believers. That was in a debate where his argumentative skills were put to shame.
Look it up.