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How To Get Respect Without Being A Bully - Jordan Peterson

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Discover The 4 Emotions You Need To Make a Killer First Impression: http://bit.ly/2mHvxck Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-Subscribe How To Get Respect Without Being A Bully - Jordan Peterson https://goo.gl/DLouoh Jordan Peterson recently expertly handled a debate during an interview with BBC's Channel 4 news (The video was called: Jordan Peterson debate on the gender pay gap, campus protests and postmodernism). And JBP did it without being a bull or being aggressive. So how do we get respect without being a bully? Well, we often think that getting respect and being aggressive go hand in hand. Because unfortunately, it’s often the bully that gets the most respect in the schoolyard and even in the workplace. But Jordan Peterson is an exemplar of a different way to generate massive amount of respect. So in this video we’re going to explore 3 main things he does that force people to respect you WITHOUT being a bully. Now, we focused a lot on respect in this video but that's actually just one out of four emotions that are going to create an amazing first impression on anyone cross-culturally. Now, if you're curious with the other three emotions that you want to create in that person are to make an amazing first impression, I made a video on that that breaks down what those four emotions are so that you can start using them today to consistently make killer first impressions. 0:30 Jordan Peterson calls it "pacing your reality" 4:50 Jordan Peterson tells stories effectively 6:54 Jordan Peterson uses archetypal stories Connect With Us Further: Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.com Facebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommand Instagram: @CharismaOnCommand Or if you want to see our personal stuff (regular life + playing music): Instagram: @CharlieHoupert Instagram: @IamBenAltman
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Charisma on Command (1 year ago)
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KiTiTy (1 month ago)
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Jewsa Jewsa (2 months ago)
Check his basement
Aldrich Uyliong (2 months ago)
+Sciurus Rubrum Charisma is the crutch of those devoid of truth or reason. An effective one to be sure but it doesn't make them purveyors of truth or logic - it just makes them sound reasonable and salubrious.
Aldrich Uyliong (2 months ago)
+Leah Davidson Your assertion is completely correct however that's beside the point of this video. The point of this video is to learn Peterson's tricks and tactics in order to guard against them and use them to your advantage in order to deprogram his weak-minded anti-feminist, anti-trans and anti-SJW followers. One can still be persuasive even if their entire ideology is wrong, evil or faulty - as Peterson's is. That's the power of charisma. Understand that lesson and you can convince anyone of anything. It's up to you whether you use it for right or wrong.
Stellar Creations (3 months ago)
Are you Canadian?
king in yellow (5 hours ago)
Well Hi John (20 hours ago)
Jordan Pepperson? 2:20
ViciousOneWon (2 days ago)
The question about where are the Nazi's is hilarious! LMAO The Info Wars person saw the Charlottesville march just like everyone else in the country and KNOWS there are Nazi's among us. Yet he asks the question as if they don't exist! LMAO Racists are funny! :D
Nasar Jafri (2 days ago)
9:57 looks like he is playing chess.
Tom Noyb (2 days ago)
Peterson abhors socialism and all its forms, yet socialism's growing stronger every day and he's converted almost no-one. There's a lot to be said for ridicule. If one holds a destructive position, especially a position destructive to the rest of us, they deserve derision and to be laughed at (not with). Nothing ends stupidity faster than humorous derision. Mean? You bet. Effective? More effective than any other technique (when accurately applied). Making fun of correct positions tends to backfire. Ask any of the late-night hosts who've destroyed their careers attacking the correct Trump for three-years? But when accurately applied, nothing tops derision for ending stupidity.
mujdo1 (2 days ago)
Are you going to ask us for money, if we click on the link?
jellis2424 (3 days ago)
This is called empathic listening.
Pete Lok (5 days ago)
Very clever guy. Totally
DelasVC (5 days ago)
a saying in germany says: violence ain't a solution but a good point!
Tom Altenburg (6 days ago)
Excellent! With all the educational indoctrination lve been fed, listening to J P has been a breath of fresh air!
Amritabha Chakraborty (6 days ago)
1:13 says it has great chances to change his mind *Shows Crowder*
Mr unpredictable (6 days ago)
2:20 dafuq?? He called him *Jordan Perperson* lol
dhouchin83 (5 days ago)
He said, "Jordan peppers in..."
Azar Subs (6 days ago)
These videos helped me with my social anxiety at first, but I'm starting to think it's just for guys who want to 'keep cool' during their online debates.
karl johan (7 days ago)
so basicly Jordan Peterson is a brain ninja. you don't notice when he gets into your head
Jill Sives (7 days ago)
What an annoying voice JP rocks though.
Dhyan Jay (9 days ago)
Let's dislike the videos like this with such intrusive ads.
Kamran Kambang (9 days ago)
Jordan Pepperson?
Caucasian African (9 days ago)
It's "Jordan peppers in...."
P H (10 days ago)
i still dont understand archetyps - and I got a friend that got manic due to too much C. Jung - soo thats a nope for me
Alan Wallace (10 days ago)
Earn it. You have no place demanding a damn thing unless you've earned it. If you've earned it, you will never feel the need to demand it, because no one capable of earning respect could be that constantly needy.
2007dolphinlover (11 days ago)
Jordan pepperson 2:22 jijiji
Kaushik Kurudi (11 days ago)
Dude you make some really great and useful videos!!! I never realised how badly I needed to see this! Thank you.
gnarth d'arkanen (11 days ago)
SOMEWHERE around here, it's worth pointing out that bullies tend not to get respect... AND for the TV-history fan's... I'd actually cite "The Andy Griffith Show"... Sheriff Andy Taylor grew popularity as the Sheriff who didn't carry a gun... as in ever. He handled them from time to time when it was only too prudent to do so. He wasn't afraid of them. AND on more than one episode, he explained his reasoning. "You see, if I carry a gun everywhere, I have to wonder if the people I meet actually respect me and the badge I wear... OR if they only fear the gun I carry. I'd much rather they respect me as a man, and their sheriff. I don't want anyone to have to fear me for the gun I wear." -Sheriff Andy Taylor, Mayberry, NC... AND finally, just on that same line of logic, "respect vs. fear"... We (out in "the sticks") have a word for the kind of person who has to carry a firearm everywhere he/she goes, all day, every day... "Coward". ;o)
Chad Nollenberg (12 days ago)
Make no Bones about it.
Solomon S (13 days ago)
I don't respect peterson
Eldar Salayev (13 days ago)
2:25 Jordan Pepperson
El Missile (14 days ago)
Peterson is clearly politically misinformed but other than that he's pretty persuasive
Detailing Shed (8 days ago)
In what way is he politically misinformed?
Eric Marshall (14 days ago)
I don’t agree with the first point. No one is neutral. People who claim neutrality are deceiving themselves OR they are trying to deceive you into thinking they’re neutral. Everyone has their presuppositions i.e., their basic commitment to what they believe, rational or irrational. Therefore if you disagree with a position but act like you don’t to find “common ground,” you are being intellectually dishonest. The more effective way to respond to your opponent when engaging in a debate is to reason by way of internal critique. Let them tell you the reasons they believe what they believe and then kindly expose the fallacies and inconsistencies which will reveal the inner tension and folly of their position.
USAcit (15 days ago)
Indrid Cold (15 days ago)
I need no respect. I only need to be left alone and not be acknowledged. Some of us just want social invisibility.
Indrid Cold (12 days ago)
+Samuel Heino Only on the World Wide Web. In reality, I rarely see anybody.
Samuel Heino (12 days ago)
Nice. But you had to come out and say it.
HandleUnique (16 days ago)
Peterson's only goal is to sell books. He's a charlatan.
Tomáš Tarnovský (16 days ago)
I think it’s funny how Jordan Peterson breaks down pretty much everything that any person needs to make it through life and keep their sanity and then you come and translate it for everyone into something they can grasp :-D it’s like reading a manual to a textbook :-D don’t get me wrong, this is not me trying to be mean, just find this amusing :) I do like the content you make :)
bee zee (17 days ago)
Thank you Dr. Peterson for showing the world how to have a discussion.
Lisa Sigmon (19 days ago)
It's about pride. Don't be so proud that you can't be wrong, that you can't learn to think a different way. They say, "know what you want", the opposite of that would be "keep an open mind". They are both positive statements but you have to choose the best average for the particular moment.
armadilly (20 days ago)
This is why Michael Cohen owning up to regret for assisting Trump's scams is more powerful than his convicted cronies who remain his tools.
Ryan Hughes (21 days ago)
Brn shapiro needs to study this guy very closely
Chaz Breese (22 days ago)
Wow. Just a shocking and horrific "WOW" as my response.  This video blows past the most simplistic method (used by the US military, btw) to get respect thereby building trust. (Massive amounts!) Then the video makes it more difficult to get respect by laying down steps to complex systems of gaining respect. Jordan Peterson's methods work and are effective, but these methods blow past the easiest method to get respect! The easiest method comes from Social Exchange Theory or the Exchange Paradigm and it works like this... First: LISTEN to someone you want to gain respect from. The act of listening shows that you value their opinion and you are giving them your time and your undivided attention: both of these have value. Everyone wants to be listened to and this is another reason this works. Asking questions is a part of listening because, if the person isn't talking, then you can't listen: continue asking questions and listen until you are certain you understand the person. All these reasons for listening explains why interrupting is so destructive to conversations and blocks earning respect/building trust. Second: ENCOURAGE/SUGGEST. Based on what you have understood by listening, encourage the person in a specific direction or make a suggestion. You are now offering further value to the person and the expectation is now for reciprocity. If the reciprocity of respect is not offered then return to the first step by asking more appropriate questions. Yes, sometimes people do not want to give respect and, as Jordan Peterson said, you cannot force it; but, you can let the person know you are interested in their respect by continuing to give them your time and giving encouragement and making suggestions. It is truly that simple. We can add Jordan Peterson's steps to this process, but these two steps come before anything else. Listen and then Encourage/Suggest.
David Osipov (21 days ago)
Thank you for your opinion! I was in army too and your statement reminded me that time, made me analyze the notion of respect, gain and lose of it there.
Sarah Lowry (22 days ago)
That's awesome
BrotherTree1 (22 days ago)
Peter really adds colour to this black and white driven society... and validating, respecting, listening and understanding every individuals unique opinions, thoughts and feelings (including your very own- that's self-respect and self-validation) is absolutely key.
Alex Hristo (24 days ago)
2:28 pepperson?
justin mitchell (24 days ago)
this vieoo got interrupted by a yelling orange baby
naila bencobi (26 days ago)
i don't like him , i think he talks a lot whithout convincing me : (
benjashawn (26 days ago)
6:15 cool to see how chill these guys are with their comrades just sleeping on their shoulders
Daria Kępa (27 days ago)
there are really no other people that you can take as an example? Shame you are promoting this lobster boy
Dark Dagger (27 days ago)
This Jordan Pepperson guy sounds interesting...
CB Quills (1 month ago)
I made a killer first impression without conversing or dialogue.
Krupa Barot (1 month ago)
This technic doesn’t work with narcissists and psychopaths. I have tried it and have failed. As they do NOT want to change their minds and yet want you to change your mind.
Krupa Barot (1 month ago)
I do not feel in any way connected with Peterson’s point.
Krupa Barot (1 month ago)
Besides he himself is superficial and shallow. This is mental manipulation. Not TRUTH.
Arthur Fratelli (1 month ago)
Infowars? Lol.
Smacy (1 month ago)
I don't know about anyone else but it seems like this guy (Jordan Peterson, not the narrator) says a whole lot of...nothing. Someday he'll meet someone who won't take him so seriously and he won't know what tf to do with himself.
Xin 2 Yu (1 month ago)
Dr Peterson is simply well read and a fast thinker... the rule is when you are well read you win...
Curt Christensen (1 month ago)
You can BE the kind of person who is respected, but commanding respect is as useless as commanding time travel
maxphilly (1 month ago)
I get what you're saying but i love owned videos
Michael Trenton (1 month ago)
When I watch Jordan Peterson, I feel less insecure. He works hard. I have it easy at -20 on the construction site!
MAC MILLER (1 month ago)
Be respectful
james c (1 month ago)
#1 - Lie about what you really think.  Lure them into a false sense of security.  And then turn the tables on them.
Some Kid Lmao (1 month ago)
I fucking died when I heard Jordan Pepperson 2:22
Thomas Turner (1 month ago)
The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haidt is a perfect follow up to this video— It breaks down why people believe the things they do, and from there will make you more effective at communicating with people on both sides of the political spectrum. Could not recommend enough.
Alexander Bass (23 days ago)
Thank you for the recommendation Thomas, I just downloaded it to my Kindle.
Toni Art (1 month ago)
We like to hear him speak not some interpreter.
Toni Art (1 month ago)
Being a bully is more fun lololol
Medeiros Method (1 month ago)
Im about to buy this dudes university
James OBrien (1 month ago)
Never Retreat from your opinion, open your mind to the possibility of change yes. But there has to be more than just a compelling argument let's face it a used car salesman can make a compelling argument and then take everything you have and leave you with a shitbox. Anybody is capable of changing your mind if you are subscribed tble. Listen for truth never make up your mind on the spot do your own research know the subject that you're talking about if you are unfamiliar with that subject say I cannot in any way make a commitment to what you're saying right now can we agree to meet at another time. If they refuse then they are basically full of you-know-what. If they say absolutely I would love and look forward to it then do your research carefully judge your mind and your feelings and your heart based on what you know and what you will learn. There's nothing wrong with changing your mind and opening your heart to new and better experiences. Don't be fooled by used car salesman.
Andrew Doepping (1 month ago)
I'm kind of just scratching the surface on these videos. Is there a way to kill the bias, I have a hard time accepting other peoples points of view in some cases. I can't just turn that off, can I?
Adam Persson (1 month ago)
Kowalski analesys
Fake Brews (1 month ago)
He's expressing his opinions in an eloquent manner. He's not brainwashing people. It's up to people to use logical thinking to decide if they agree with his points or not. He's human, he can be wrong.
Xavius Americus (1 month ago)
rv706 (1 month ago)
Jordan Peterson, the most articulate alt-right conspiracy theorist on the web.
gracz misiek (1 month ago)
I barely discovered the guy and like him already. Good guy Hannibal Lecturer
Michel Saint Hilaire (1 month ago)
Kazi Redoan (1 month ago)
2:21 Jordon Peperson :D
Mister G (1 month ago)
The thumbnail says "command" but the video description says "get". Which one is it then? Is there a difference? Is it intentionally misleading? Which one is it?
Kevin Stephan Kirwan (1 month ago)
Mr. ? (1 month ago)
why does every one hates Ben
Sanction762 (1 month ago)
You do not "command" respect. Respect is earned.
Dave (1 month ago)
If only Donald Trump would have watched this video a few months ago, maybe the government wouldn't have had the shutdown. Of course then the question you might ask is why would Donald Trump even care to watch this video? And the answer might be because he cares enough about accomplishing his goals to realize that he needs to get people who don't like him or even flat-out I want to see him destroyed to work with him, and this might be the best way to do it.
Toprak Koç (1 month ago)
2:22 "Jordan PEPPERSON" Huh? :D
Robert Platt (1 month ago)
Sometimes humans live in periods of conflict, where a dominating type of person will be necessary to rally the troops and keep the enemy at bay. But most of the time, humans live in periods of productivity, where you need organizers, scientists, and teachers. I don't think the periods of conflict are as important to history as the periods of productivity, because the human brain applied to problems is more important than the hand holding a sword. Of course, humans also apply the thinking process to conflict. Caesar was victorious in battle not because of ferocity, but because he utilized combat engineers. But combat engineering is not nearly as creative as agricultural science, or modern civilian technologies. Today, our defense industries are followers of our consumer industries.
Mermaid Von Starfish (1 month ago)
Dr. Peterson is a legend
Terry Curtin (1 month ago)
So Oreilly not all of CNN and MSNBC get the hit. Please stay in the middle. The left is now socialism. Perhaps a video on that
Marlor Manor (1 month ago)
How can I apologize correctly when I have done something wrong. In all honesty, I want to learn to apologize for a promise I made and unintentionally broke because of the measure of time.
Paper Boi (1 month ago)
Pro tip: watch The Godfather. Or better: read the book
Ham Sarris (1 month ago)
Step 1: be really smart
Mr Video Game (1 month ago)
ThE quote on quote may not make the person change opinion but i see how can make the people waching change opinion because nobody wants to stay on the side of the bump and the loser, here in brazil two youtubers , mama falei e Kim Kataguiri how make the quote on quote method just get elected to public office. because when you make the other look dump you make youself look inteligent ... not that the peterson method is not good.
Akym Rinkovsky (1 month ago)
You know the stuff with the crowd is exactly the same thing I would do with my club sometimes. I mean exactly, students can a little passionate lol Aaa ... and mostly it was the chicks there were badass
Akym Rinkovsky (1 month ago)
I like him ... he's really good. He reminds me of someone.
Covenant Caswell (1 month ago)
Peterson isn't religious. He maybe pro-religion but it's not even clear he believes in God.
Dark Guardian (1 month ago)
A yelling debate like an old episode of I Love Lucy is a turn off for me. Blocking opposing opinions on Twitter leads me to show little respect to the one blocking. It shows their arguments are weak or poorly researched.
mY pUmP dId 9 DaMaGe (1 month ago)
Just tell people to type F in the chat
Channel Green & Blue (1 month ago)
Right title: How to change people’s mind.
Jorg Gurt (1 month ago)
Nice, useful. Thanks.
Charisma on Command (1 month ago)
~ Glad you're finding it useful!
Ell Doe (1 month ago)
I don't care what anyone says.. this man is awesome and I sooo respect him!!!
Bog Domen (1 month ago)
I like how Happy is just staring at him thro the whole video xD Just remember Happy likes his fish raw!
James McCoy (1 month ago)
“Jordan Pepperson” at 2:23. Lol. That sounds hilarious for some reason I can’t explain.
n a (1 month ago)
Younger me would be sick, but Bill O'Reilly was right in those 9 seconds.
UselessHit (1 month ago)
Yet Jordan actually said that real atheists were murderers and the people who say they are atheists weren't real ones, but hidden believers. That was in a debate where his argumentative skills were put to shame. Look it up.
Youtube University (1 month ago)
Be an oldfashioned gentleman again, the world needs you.
Vanropez Pictures Inc (1 month ago)
2:22 *Jordan Pepperson*
ethrez (1 month ago)
Feels like a famous 21st century philosopher in the making. Im wondering, are there any renowned 21st or late 20th philosophers alive of the level of Kant, Jung, Nietzsche, Schoppenhauer etc?
UniqueFlowBot (1 month ago)
Thank god you said ineffective, ineffectual is a silly word ^^
PaulXT1200Z (1 month ago)
A good topic of your next vid would be communicating with people that view world,politics,religion,race etc..based on emotions vs. facts. Keep up the great work!

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