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How To Get Respect Without Being A Bully - Jordan Peterson
Jordan Peterson recently expertly handled a debate during an interview with BBC's Channel 4 news (The video was called: Jordan Peterson debate on the gender pay gap, campus protests and postmodernism). And JBP did it without being a bull or being aggressive. So how do we get respect without being a bully? Well, we often think that getting respect and being aggressive go hand in hand. Because unfortunately, it’s often the bully that gets the most respect in the schoolyard and even in the workplace. But Jordan Peterson is an exemplar of a different way to generate massive amount of respect. So in this video we’re going to explore 3 main things he does that force people to respect you WITHOUT being a bully.
Now, we focused a lot on respect in this video but that's actually just one out of four emotions that are going to create an amazing first impression on anyone cross-culturally. Now, if you're curious with the other three emotions that you want to create in that person are to make an amazing first impression, I made a video on that that breaks down what those four emotions are so that you can start using them today to consistently make killer first impressions.
0:30 Jordan Peterson calls it "pacing your reality"
4:50 Jordan Peterson tells stories effectively
6:54 Jordan Peterson uses archetypal stories
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So you promote this violent nutter Peterson for the notifications!!!! ewwww- you incite hatred, misogyny, sexual abuse and persecution of disabled women and children - you kill people and its all for the money - you have the same idol as Peterson - money and power ewwwww
Now YouTube is forcing a 2:23 minute crap AD before the video? More than 2 minutes forced ADs? Is this a choice of the content creator or is it YT? AFter like a minute i got a 6 minute forced AD? I'm out of here
Found this useful until the bit about the Soviet Union where it becomes clear Peterson does not practice what he preaches. His views on the Soviet Union and especially Stalin are outdated and pure US propaganda!
Call me evil but I love it when people don't change their minds, especially when everyone knows the person being stubborn will ultimately drag themselves into destruction.
For example you tell someone if they keep waking in the same direction as they currently are in they will fall down a hole.
It doesn't matter how you say it, one should not be soo full of pride that they disregard your statement because of how you made it.
"if you make others feel stupid it doesn't actually change their mind"
That's where I have to disagree, I feel like if you don't go overboard in terms of deliberately making people feel stupid, they could actually develop the awareness towards their lack of information in the argumentation, so next time they will not use the same line to go against something, but will go in more specific details, like I don't believe those two girls actually tried to say the same thing again after they got emotional.
HA! You would be hard pressed to find a WORSE example of this outside of the current United States government. Not only is this man not respectable, but he's SUCH a bully he became famous solely for pissing and moaning when the Canadian government passed a more or less impotent law taking one bullying method (that barely even applied to him) off the table. He actually does the VAST MAJORITY of the things you claim he "wins respect without doing" on a regular basis. If you haven't seen him get emotional and talk over people, or go out of his way to make people feel dumb, then you should really see more of what he does before you comment about it, cause I've seen it time and time again. Watch literally ANY TIME he's spoken to someone from the LGBT community, and see how respectable he looks then. But hey, congrats on finding a few minutes of footage where he's not (obviously) being an asshole.
Oh and "once he's completely reversed your initial position"? Show me one time he's ever done that to an honest person, cause I sure as hell haven't seen it.
Jordan Peterson is garbage masquerading as an academic, and if that's the kind of person YOU respect.... then I, in turn, can't respect you.
The only video of petersons i have watched is the one you show at the end. He had one thing he said that demmanded me to give him respect instantly. It was something along the lines of " Don't supress the opposition if you believe they are wrong, allow them to speak so you, as well as others, know why they are wrong."
in life it helps me remember what the motivation is... unfortunately the 24 hour news cycle has a lot of air time to sell... that one propaganda channel masquerading as news profits 2 billion dollars a year... with those numbers who would change !
At least 3 influences I pick up watching Jordan Peterson: 1) Jung, 2) Milton Erickson, 3) and Rogers, might be willing to add Maslow and pushed might be willing to add Ellis and what I consider a cousin stance cognitive behavior. All in all though it is poise as he engages others in tough dialogue most of us mere mortals would collapse under because of our subjectivity.
my dad taught me that the ultimate reason that people argue is because they don't understand the point the other side/person is trying to make, and how they want to take away something from that other side. sounds obvious, i know, but it shows how any argument can be way more persuasive and compelling if both or one side is able to sympathize and help understand with the other, while still trying to being a new consideration to the table.
the main thing you missed about Peterson,he has courage of conviction in his eyes and heart; the kind of look that say a Bar bully would know "ya i can beat the piss out of this egghead, but he's not going to make it easy". i'm just saying that JP will take his lumps for his beliefs, and probably give some too.
I understand your point but it feels a bit over the top to analyze everything and put it into a box on to explain how someone talks. I think people have ways to do things but you make it seem more complex than what it actually is on this video.
I've noticed a humerous little quagmire... at around 2:20 the narrator says "Jordan peppers in," and some commenters (using the bad faith fallacy) just assumed the narrator said "Jordan Pepperson" despite that interpretation making no grammatical sense within the context of the sentence.
I wouldnt have the patience of Mr. Peterson. All SJW's and Libtards just annoy me with their blatant stupidity, basement-dwelling echo chamber opinions, and sheep-like media-directed anger. Stupidity annoys me too much
Peterson was not trying to win a debate during his lectures that you sited.. in some of the the appearances that he made on talk shows he was but your point was already lost for the fact that it was not intentional
If you think about it, it’s actually a simple concept: Jordan Peterson respects people, and they respect him in return. If you respect people, you wouldn’t put them down in argument or ever ignore their feelings and views, no matter how intelligent or superior you may think you are, but listen and talk to them respectfully. It’s easy to fall into the trap of feeling good because you feel like you’re so much ‘better’. Humility is a virtue too.
A always laugh when I see a vid named something like "Peterson destroys" when hes... not. Hes presenting a case, usually fairly well. Sometimes not that well. Usually rather civil and progressive as far as debate like conversations go.
Fair a field from the smackdown rants we often see. Really undermines the hard work he puts in.
Put simply, people like him because he's not an asshole. What makes him so great at what he does though is that he understands the importance of routinely validating his opponents and encouraging them to speak. This gives him total control of the emotional factor of the discussion. I feel like I've learned a lot from him.
The thing is, once you understand his strategies, Jordan Peterson is not that impressive anymore and the chances of him convincing you of anything fall dramatically. It's because you start understanding that his points of view are not more valid, but that he is a better manipulator.
While your point has merit, I would argue his strategies are not as nefarious as you imply. He's not vying for power or to control others. He simply has information about how to live life that is valuable and he is able to pass that on with highly effective rhetoric. No matter what you hear you still have to make an internal decision on accepting that information.