James Corden - How To Be Nice Without Being A Pushover
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James Corden has the fastest growing Late Night channel on YouTube thanks mostly to the massive success he has had with Carpool Karaoke on the Late Late Show.
And while it is certainly fun to watch your favorite singers rock out to their most popular songs, a big contributor to the success of those videos is the dynamic James is able to create in such a short time. He’s able to get people to open up and really enjoy themselves. And if you watch closely, there is a moment where these stars who were previously bored or skeptical, seem to really begin to like James Corden. James Corden’s magnetism comes from the fact that he is able to make people feel good, without losing their respect. That is what we are going to learn how to do in this video.
01:44 Make your compliments more specific and direct
02:06 Push-pull compliment to avoid the vibe of butt-kissing
02:54 If tension arises when complimenting, follow up with a joke
06:01 For certain groups, don't get walked over by dishing it back out
07:55 Set boundaries at times too like what James Corden did here
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+Polar Pi I had no intention of going anywhere with it or correcting, I was legit curious ;p I find the balance of learning how to embrace one's 'genuine' self and still choosing to grow/change an interesting paradox of self help, which differs from person to person
+Confidence Coaching with Gwun I know where you're going with this, as long as coming to your channel to learn is genuine and the learning process is genuine then it is not disingenuous. I agree. I stand corrected. I thought of genuine as being intrinsic (coming from within) but I now realize it doesn't have to be.
This video ignores an important aspect of James Corden. He's gay. I'll explain why that matters. Adam Carolla once mentioned about how when you go to the oscars or the grammies, you get a gift basket of items from the event organizer, they're worth about $400-$1000. And this basket of items only sucks if you're a straight man, because it's tickets to the broadway, and spa appointments and it's basically a function of what you get when only women and gay men are the ones nagging about the contents of the basket. Gay men know how to nag and annoy off the camera to get what they want, it goes without saying that women are also good at this. The saying is "nice GUYS finish last", but if you're gay, you're no longer matching this phrase anymore, because you're behavior isn't of a guy, it's of a girl. James may be pleasant and nice, but he knows how to nag like a women because this is what gays are excellent at. I have absolutely no doubt James Corden has mastered this in his professional career, and it makes him a terrible example for this video because it overlooks this reality entirely.
Actually, Australian men are very into this friendly attacking of each other in a very fun way. My husband is an Aussie....you don’t even want to know how he answers the phone to his friends. They do this to each other, and it’s funny. But, it doesn’t cross a line into real personal insults. But, it is very strange to me. Lol!
Apparently, James isn’t very nice to “ordinary” people. I’m not sure how true this is, and I hope the rumours are wrong. He certainly seems to be a nice person. I like self deprecating people who can genuinely laugh at themselves in a fun way, not in a lack of self worth way.
What a strange choice of person to illustrate a video about charisma! Corden makes very many people in the UK shudder. Perhaps that's why he's gone to America. In this country he frequently comes across as arrogant and loud and his humour as laddish and dated. To many he has an unappealing, thespy air of entitlement and -- the biggest sin of all on this side of the Atlantic -- he's attention-seeking. I really dislike tarring whole nations with one brush, but if Corden's 'qualities' are really admired so very much in your country then that can only fuel the prejudices of those who consider most Americans to be not only loud and insincere but also far too fond of fawning on those who are in love with themselves.
> Ynysmitwr dons tin hat and retreats to hastily dug trench in back garden <
I think using actors/ performers is an awful example. Majority of all these interactions are rehearsed, scripted or fake/ forced. The only reason any of these celebrities even go on all these shit talk shows is to promote something they've done and are contractually obligated.
Of course you're gonna be nice on TV if it's your job or career on the line.
I'm in band. Once there was a boy who got many praises for being good at playing trumpet by the teacher. He let someone else who plays saxophone to try the trumpet. I made a joke (many people made), "You're already better than (insert name)," in a sarcastic manner and he got very defensive and pissed. What an awkward situation.
I have a very broad sence of humor. And I like the digging humor, but usualy if someone makes mean jokes, I mirror them. Pretty much, allowing them to set the line because I know I am able to handle most thungs and if they make a mean joke, they should be able to handle a mean joke. But if it's to much I usualy just does one of those ignores that James did in your example.
I know someone who compliments everyone and makes everything positive. It has made people not trust him bc they know he's a bs artist. So if you are doing to try this "concept", you'd better be master at it, because people will figure you out. Also, remember, he's ACTING to get funny votes. It's his style, and it's used to make money. If you think he's like this in real life daily, then you assume his entire life is a tv show. He likely wakes up grouchy like everyone else.
This video should be, "How to Act Like a Comedian".
I thought the funhouse mirror comment was hilarious and I'm fat.... How is that mean spirited? How is James gonna get offended at that. It's a fact. He weights more than Matt Damon. If you get offended about that and are not able to laugh at yourself because it hurts your precious little ego and your glass confidence, then the problem is you, not the person making the joke. James is faking being offended. You can see he is trying to not laugh....
It's strange to watch videos like these, because I have absolutely no respect whatsoever for Hollywood celebrities. Although I understand, intellectually, that this advice can be applied to many situations, I instinctively recoil from the idea of making people like these like me.
I was going to make a comment about men being mean is their affection, but I've decided to change it. The last half of this video is all about jokes. Mean spirited jokes are funny to some people, so don't tell anyone they are not. I don't think James Corden is funny 95% of the time yet he has a massive fan base. Does that mean James is not funny, not at all. I just know how to tell a funny rape joke and he doesn't which is fine. I don't want friends who can't find something funny in everything.
Pls make a video on how to complement without sounding fake since a lot of girls would say/whisper to there friends that "shes faking it, trying to act nice so she'll get the attention what a plastic" even though she was actually nice and isn't trying to get attention 🙁 please help
James Corden is fake as fuck. He plays those parts where he pretends to be nice. In real life he is one of the shittiest public persons I know. Sorry, to say it this harshly but if you knew what is going on behind the scenes you would be ashamed to work for him or to be his friend.