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How To Be Nice Without Being A Pushover

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James Corden - How To Be Nice Without Being A Pushover Discover The 4 Emotions You Need To Make a Killer First Impression: http://bit.ly/2EdT6Qs Push Pull In Flirting: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0kaR6-MIV8k Self Deprecating Humor: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLefV978fp07cE9uFJ-SqUHQvmuNbhdRmz James Corden has the fastest growing Late Night channel on YouTube thanks mostly to the massive success he has had with Carpool Karaoke on the Late Late Show. And while it is certainly fun to watch your favorite singers rock out to their most popular songs, a big contributor to the success of those videos is the dynamic James is able to create in such a short time. He’s able to get people to open up and really enjoy themselves. And if you watch closely, there is a moment where these stars who were previously bored or skeptical, seem to really begin to like James Corden. James Corden’s magnetism comes from the fact that he is able to make people feel good, without losing their respect. That is what we are going to learn how to do in this video. 01:44 Make your compliments more specific and direct 02:06 Push-pull compliment to avoid the vibe of butt-kissing 02:54 If tension arises when complimenting, follow up with a joke 06:01 For certain groups, don't get walked over by dishing it back out 07:55 Set boundaries at times too like what James Corden did here Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-Subscribe Connect With Us Further: Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.com Facebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommand Periscope: https://www.periscope.tv/charismaon Video Editor, Andre: http://www.goandre.com Or if you want to see my personal stuff (my regular life + me playing music): Instagram: @CharlieHoupert Periscope: @CharlieHoupert
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Text Comments (1266)
Robert Torres (5 minutes ago)
I wouldn’t necessarily joke about someone’s strengths, because they themselves might feel like they aren’t that strong at that. There’s been times where I thought I was weak at something and make a joke about me being weak but it turns out they think I’m strong at it
Richard Corvine (6 hours ago)
He makes me feel calm and I understand why I have to keep a low profile because I'm still too wild to ever become as successful as him.
AlexE (1 day ago)
1:28 this man's hands look at him like a giant jesus christ talk about small hands
bittersweetluv22 (3 days ago)
Oh man I respect Zach Levi's acting skills but he was invited there and then he goes onto make it about Jame's weight
Grumbel Bumbel (8 days ago)
He's the kind of guy every woman wants to cuddle with.
Renovator (8 days ago)
I feel like if aliens were ever trying to blend in with human society, they’d watch these videos.
Meryem Ben Soltana (9 days ago)
James is a bad bitch
Octo Panda (9 days ago)
He’s one of them people that when he speaks you can’t help but smile or laugh
Wesley Hyzell (10 days ago)
I wonder how many autists are here trying to be normal.
ChoiNari (11 days ago)
The hair, second from the left, sticking out of your right nostril looks really nice
Ada Le (11 days ago)
James corden is one of the fakest, most embarrassingly unfunny people in show-business. This video is absolute bullshit
other stories (15 days ago)
You must be so tense when talking to people
I'm Illumimati (16 days ago)
This James dude seems like a fraud to me. And I don't really think his fake complimenting tactics will get anyone very far, for very long.
E. K (17 days ago)
i doubt he thinks about all this it has to be natural for him
that one guy 500 (18 days ago)
8:45 i'd like to say that the key to joking is understanding your mark. I'm fat, but do not get offended by fat jokes. I simply don't allow myself to be hurt by comedy. I've seen others get offended by jokes made about me as i laugh. Of course you also need to understand when a joke is for comedy and when it is clearly aggresion. His funhouse mirror joke was funny, but when he continues beyond the simple statement it is clearly meant as an insult.
Not my name (20 days ago)
Bully her nicely
Wimplo86 (23 days ago)
It’s videos like these that make me so glad I subscribed
Brandon roberts (23 days ago)
Conan O’Brian is the master of self deprecating comedy
esketit (28 days ago)
i think hes just nice.
Lmclean89 (29 days ago)
Sorry but this is fucking ridiculous. James Corden's biggest criticism is that he is a completely different person off the camera. He has grown because of the network. His managers and producers are doing all the work and pulling all the strings so his latenight surges. Please do research on something else than this stupid git.
Graig Simmonette (29 days ago)
Matt Damon and Fat Damon is a quality joke. The next joke was meh and just served to make the first one sound more insulting than funny. Though that's from a humor perspective, not a charisma perspective.
Joyson Wildhart (1 month ago)
how nice? can finish. FIRST.
Bubbles_McStuffin97 (1 month ago)
I don't necessarily agree with James Cordens views on certain subjects but singing in a car with him would be awesome. Also i agree with how nice he actually is and for that I respect him as a person and a tv personality he really is a warm person
Solaris Music (1 month ago)
I feel autistic when I'm watching vids from this channel
SolarCasanova (1 month ago)
Ppppfffrimarily a great video. :)
Ben 'Mark' Parry (1 month ago)
the most depressing action i have ever done was clicking on this video with the intention to learn from it
Cartoons My Man (1 month ago)
James corden is fucking annoying
LovingLife (1 month ago)
I love your rral life examples!
Chaos Kind (1 month ago)
I do all of this already! :) I don't do so well in group setting tho. most of these were 1 on 1
Tin Cazar (1 month ago)
y-your nails are always so s-short!
Alex Vaughan (1 month ago)
Aaaaah, sorry guys! We'll have to go again cause of Joe montana! XD
Pianobob (1 month ago)
Meanwhile, my compliments sound like -You consistently fail to disappoint me.
Hangover Politics (1 month ago)
James Corden is a nice guy, but his show is all about bootlicking. And the carpool karaoke sucks big time. I stick with Craig.
Augusta Verbian (1 month ago)
It is so unbeliveable difficult to be funny and respected in once. That is high social skill to control the tension.
Theendman (1 month ago)
The guy that made the mean spirited joke misinterpreted the boundaries of the conversation, in the moment he confused James' comedy with that. That is all.
TheChaosilator (1 month ago)
The playlist does not exist
Margaret Batson (1 month ago)
Well if your nice and have good values and morals then yes you can finish first.
Onyx Marie (1 month ago)
Yay
DH_Artist (2 months ago)
What about Craig Ferguson?????
Xiang Zhou (2 months ago)
don't take everything too seriously. another thing is when you find your own balance in life, you won't likely to notice other people's toxic behaviour and confidence comes from within.
James Hawkins (2 months ago)
444 aliens didn’t understand human behavior
Evelyne Ernest (2 months ago)
Love 💕 you. Learning a lot!!🤣💪🏾👊🏾 can’t stop leaving a lot of love 💗❤️ to this channel 😜😘🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Evelyne Ernest (2 months ago)
He’s hilarious! Good 😘😘love him, am his subscriber too😜😜🤙🏼👊🏾👊🏾
Evelyne Ernest (2 months ago)
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TeLaH Gaming (2 months ago)
Hey you!!! Yes you, YOU HAVE AN AMAZING FACE!!!
Freddy Giron (2 months ago)
and this video just proved that shazam is gonna suck. That guy sucks smh
Jennifer Thomas (2 months ago)
So what if you carelessly make a meanspirited joke and you want to warm the situation back up again or backpedal on it?
Name's Roz (2 months ago)
He doesn't have tatoos
C. F. (2 months ago)
Except, the push/pull method becomes seriously telegraphed when used consistently by the same person. You become a 1 trick pony, like James Borden, and the respect is still lost. Hence, his spot in the ratings. Your "methods" are incomplete and inconsistent.
Elora Sfortza (2 months ago)
That's right kids create those basic emotions
Pablo Rages (2 months ago)
Like your vids .... but I think you got it wrong here. Corden wins with women but most of the men I know HATE HIM. He always seems like he is trying to hard, he over does the compliments and appears like he is sucking up. Most men dislike this. The feeling I get from Corden is that he lacks real confidence, it looks like he's acting. I find him slimey and disingenuous and think he is a product of the man bashing that hollywood seems to promoting lately .
garjian (2 months ago)
Whenever people are trying to sell me stuff they always comment on my hairstyle, it's so transparent. I refuse to believe such a token compliment would disarm anybody with more than half a brain.
chabola (2 months ago)
Everybody that already knew this!!UNITE!! we need to destroy this video they are telling them our secrets
Silver Wyvern (2 months ago)
Are you trying to teach sociopaths how to be normal people?
Maurice Evans (2 months ago)
I wonder if videos like these are for the reptile people
Secrecy (2 months ago)
You make it seem like the whole world is playing mind games with me and everyone.
Lauren (2 months ago)
The only time i don’t like him is when he has the animal guy on his show - he treats that man like crap and never acknowledges him
ELEAZAR (2 months ago)
For an INFJ Male myself, I feel my extroverted feeling side taking a internal ride of wtf, I love it:)
City Guard (2 months ago)
I pretty much nailed this. I can be hilarious and nice to everyone, even people I dislike, but I am not afraid to stand up and tell people what I think of them or their actions when need be.
Ninekills (2 months ago)
He's a celebrity. He's infront of a camera and that makes you act differently.
ItsMeDanielxD (2 months ago)
april fools!! what? hun? its in january? damn liar. ...
J D (2 months ago)
No wonder i struggle with socializing, i master none of this, infact i dont know what to do in a conversation and i always Wonder how others become mates out of nothing.
YellowTissueBox (2 months ago)
+10 Charisma.
Fionnlagh Ormiston (3 months ago)
Ah, I remember the old days when we just had James over here in the UK and we mostly thought he was a twat. Oh how times have changed!
Sea Mee (3 months ago)
In short, some people have it and some people don’t.
Gotcha Productions (3 months ago)
Fat Damon LMAOOO
monaxggx- blue (3 months ago)
haha what great video! I've noticed I do most of them all the time lol so I know what to continue with^^
Izaya Evarez (3 months ago)
Oh my goodness I lose so much respect for MEN that tease me about being slim saying stuff like "You're not a man." Thanks for the video!! I don't get closer to people by teasing them. That means there's something bothering me about the person if I'm teasing them. I'm glad you shared this because I've been wondering what I could do against these people. I'm not trying to be offended because freedom of speech, but I also don't want to respond as if I'm losing myself. I'll ignore the first time, and if a human can't understand, then I'ma get under their skin and let them know that I'm the one driving this conversation. They ain't gonna be able to speak again. And then we'll laugh. And then it'll all be done and I won't have to speak to that human again. I just hope they don't do that bullshit azz handshake talking about "You such a cool person". Like human you insulted me!! That shit annoys me!!
the holy cow (3 months ago)
instructions unclear:got my mouth stuck in sinkhole
John Stamos (3 months ago)
WHAT THE FUCK IM LEARNING SO MUCH WHY DON'T THEY TEACH THIS SHIT IN SCHOOL ALSGJAS:GJASGA
Arian Zoie (3 months ago)
bra your mind is different, i've done Dmt and molly but i never saw this coming, you predict things and sometimes that is not a good idea, at least thats how i like to put it., also if you the person who is reading this wondering how old i am, i'm 16 but I'm pretty sure you thought i was older, that right there shows you I'm one step ahead of you the person who is reading this.
wrath (3 months ago)
4:50 me lol
Wave Unlimited (3 months ago)
He’s doing a ll ur tricks
Brian Melendy (3 months ago)
Not even close to Craig Furgeson.
Nastya Kosyakova (3 months ago)
More specific? I really like the shoelaces you wore on the converse on last friday in that coffee shop at 3:00 after your cooking class.
Pat Tanackered (3 months ago)
I wouldn't rule out his no sense of shame and his ease of working with women. Not many hit sitcoms are written solely by a man and a woman with no romantic entanglement. He's very non threatening to women
Jazz.it.is.what.it.is (3 months ago)
3rd video of yours that I've watched in a row, all of them were wonderful you've earned the subscription 3 times over. Keep 'em coming lol
Charisma on Command (3 months ago)
~ Welcome to the channel! Hopefully, we'll have more good stuff for you soon. :-)
Antonio Mendes (3 months ago)
Jammy Fallon should watch this video
WeirdWorld (3 months ago)
WOHA
elbitapmoC (3 months ago)
playlist doesn't exist
D S (3 months ago)
Love that you provide examples. 👍
Occlehnorton (3 months ago)
Why cant we just be ourselves? Fuck lol psychology is a motherfucker. Id rather stay an introvert
Xx xX (3 months ago)
People are far too complicated. Be nice to them and they don't respect you, don't be nice and they'll destroy you for disrespecting them. Fuck that. Live alone, stay alone and fuck dealing with people.
Wanderer 76 (3 months ago)
Me know no human emotions
Adewale Gilbert (3 months ago)
Would you explain Frank Underwood from House of Cards?
DJ T3RRV (3 months ago)
The fat one that writes the songs 😭😭😭❤❤❤
micheal achilanga (3 months ago)
James Corden is British & I live in Britain and being polite & nice is the protocol here
Bethany Smith (3 months ago)
I recently started watching your channel. I've really enjoyed what I've seen, but this video is by far my favorite! I love the specifics and how you broke down each technique.
Charisma on Command (3 months ago)
~ Glad you enjoyed the breakdown!
Sitara Michell (3 months ago)
What if you don't notice anything special about ppl and try to make friend but you just can't click with anyone
CommandonerBob 1 (3 months ago)
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Jillian Jacques (3 months ago)
i talk the same way with the whole push pull thing but it's deffinately because im so paranoid that im sounding stupid that after most general statements I try to crack a laugh to distract from my not very well thought out conversation out of paranoia. lol
Unos Uno (3 months ago)
He still sounds too fake to me...
Veronika Purplesfinx (3 months ago)
Your videos are so great,thank you💗
Audrey (3 months ago)
The guy in the dark suit is overly obnoxious and cocky. Eww
Swiennie (3 months ago)
Just tried it out on someone in a bad mood, instantly made them feel better. Thank you bro for sharing these skills!
Charisma on Command (3 months ago)
~ Happy to share :-)
ThatCrazySafa (3 months ago)
Your content is awesome! I am so happy that I found your channel. Keep up the great work!!
Charisma on Command (3 months ago)
~ Awesome, glad you found us! Feel free to subscribe for more videos if you haven't done so yet. :-)
cyclonegaming (3 months ago)
I've made some mean jokes and you have made me realise how much of a dick I have been so now I shale change my ways thank you
this reminds me of a good friend of mine ❤❤
chuchuchuchia (3 months ago)
I mean if you're faking, it's really difficult #StayRealStayBlessed
Robert Henry Scott (3 months ago)
James has that humble spirit which makes him likable and comfortable to be around them
Sabrina sama (3 months ago)
+ I think he would be handsome as hell if he lost some weight

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