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James Corden - How To Be Nice Without Being A Pushover Discover The 4 Emotions You Need To Make a Killer First Impression: http://bit.ly/2EdT6Qs Push Pull In Flirting: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0kaR6-MIV8k Self Deprecating Humor: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLefV978fp07cE9uFJ-SqUHQvmuNbhdRmz James Corden has the fastest growing Late Night channel on YouTube thanks mostly to the massive success he has had with Carpool Karaoke on the Late Late Show. And while it is certainly fun to watch your favorite singers rock out to their most popular songs, a big contributor to the success of those videos is the dynamic James is able to create in such a short time. He’s able to get people to open up and really enjoy themselves. And if you watch closely, there is a moment where these stars who were previously bored or skeptical, seem to really begin to like James Corden. James Corden’s magnetism comes from the fact that he is able to make people feel good, without losing their respect. That is what we are going to learn how to do in this video. 01:44 Make your compliments more specific and direct 02:06 Push-pull compliment to avoid the vibe of butt-kissing 02:54 If tension arises when complimenting, follow up with a joke 06:01 For certain groups, don't get walked over by dishing it back out 07:55 Set boundaries at times too like what James Corden did here Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-Subscribe Connect With Us Further: Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.com Facebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommand Periscope: https://www.periscope.tv/charismaon Video Editor, Andre: http://www.goandre.com Or if you want to see my personal stuff (my regular life + me playing music): Instagram: @CharlieHoupert Periscope: @CharlieHoupert
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The Josey (29 minutes ago)
God damn You are genius 😶
Lunch (13 hours ago)
4:18 Damn, James is looking like a stockier Hemsworth
LillyCookies DDAENG (1 day ago)
me and my friend like James so much he’s the only guy we can talk hours about
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Lydia Smith (2 days ago)
anyone else first see James Corden in doctor who? (stormaggedon)
Miss Lyntheena (2 days ago)
James is such an idol for me, you don’t even know.👏🏼
Polar Pi (2 days ago)
The funny part is you try to teach people how to be genuine. Like, if you're coached into doing something, you are immediately disingenuous.
+Polar Pi I had no intention of going anywhere with it or correcting, I was legit curious ;p I find the balance of learning how to embrace one's 'genuine' self and still choosing to grow/change an interesting paradox of self help, which differs from person to person
Polar Pi (1 day ago)
+Confidence Coaching with Gwun I know where you're going with this, as long as coming to your channel to learn is genuine and the learning process is genuine then it is not disingenuous. I agree. I stand corrected. I thought of genuine as being intrinsic (coming from within) but I now realize it doesn't have to be.
Out of curiosity, what is your definition of genuine?
Elle Lauryn (3 days ago)
Oh my gosh, if you've seen enough Late Late Show you could tell James was genuinely pissed at those jokes
ClemensAlive (3 days ago)
I complimented a girl in the gym about her camel toe...she didn't like it
Harry The Sailor (4 days ago)
good video but I wish you didn't use james corden
Shades of Mindfall (4 days ago)
I’m an elementary school teacher, lol, and kids can get F E I S T Y! Your tips in this video will be put into practice ASAP! Thank you :)
Abby x (5 days ago)
i feel like i’ve learned nothing but i have at the same time
What did you learn?
Anonyme User (6 days ago)
*british people are genuinely friendly.*
Steve Johnson (6 days ago)
8:07 How can someone in the entertainment industry be so tone deaf as to bully the host on their own show? I bet he was a lot of fun in middle school.
Memorex996 (7 days ago)
Strange cause I've heard nothing but shitty things said about Corden in real life
mrzisme (8 days ago)
This video ignores an important aspect of James Corden. He's gay. I'll explain why that matters. Adam Carolla once mentioned about how when you go to the oscars or the grammies, you get a gift basket of items from the event organizer, they're worth about $400-$1000. And this basket of items only sucks if you're a straight man, because it's tickets to the broadway, and spa appointments and it's basically a function of what you get when only women and gay men are the ones nagging about the contents of the basket. Gay men know how to nag and annoy off the camera to get what they want, it goes without saying that women are also good at this. The saying is "nice GUYS finish last", but if you're gay, you're no longer matching this phrase anymore, because you're behavior isn't of a guy, it's of a girl. James may be pleasant and nice, but he knows how to nag like a women because this is what gays are excellent at. I have absolutely no doubt James Corden has mastered this in his professional career, and it makes him a terrible example for this video because it overlooks this reality entirely.
Balinux (9 days ago)
Doesn't that attitude make him an easy target for sociopaths?
Hanife Tunç (9 days ago)
You are so good
2225ram (10 days ago)
But if you’re not funny...
DiamondWolf (10 days ago)
I’m sorry, but as a whovian, I can only see James as Craig from Doctor who :’)
Elodie Dinkelberg (10 days ago)
I feel like psychopaths by out here watching these videos, taking notes 🙄😂
Sophie (10 days ago)
Katy Perry did this too in her carpool karaoke video--James complimented her haircut and she said thank you and then joked that she went to her hairdresser and asked for a James Corden look 😂
Nikki Grossman (11 days ago)
I LOVE JAMES CORDEN and now I know why!
I like how people feel when I compliment them. It makes me happy
Elias Desrosiers (13 days ago)
You know what a good charisma is? Is to be yourself and do whatever the fuck you want.
Philomina Palathingal (15 days ago)
Can you make the videos a little shorter?
strawberryshortcake (15 days ago)
james corden is awesome, he was born that way
shook lizard (16 days ago)
I learnt alot thanks
Abigail Bozzuto (16 days ago)
I think James is super handsome!
Pommie bears (18 days ago)
Actually, Australian men are very into this friendly attacking of each other in a very fun way. My husband is an Aussie....you don’t even want to know how he answers the phone to his friends. They do this to each other, and it’s funny. But, it doesn’t cross a line into real personal insults. But, it is very strange to me. Lol!
Pommie bears (18 days ago)
Apparently, James isn’t very nice to “ordinary” people. I’m not sure how true this is, and I hope the rumours are wrong. He certainly seems to be a nice person. I like self deprecating people who can genuinely laugh at themselves in a fun way, not in a lack of self worth way.
Jason Mhm (18 days ago)
Thats genius she was ready to kill him then he makes a joke and she switches in her personality and is friends again lol
Jick Magger (19 days ago)
DUDE! I've always wondered how to interact with other humans!
Wolf Shadow357 (23 days ago)
How about making how to not be a pushover when you are a closet psychopath trying to be nice
mythoughts_ on (27 days ago)
3:59 this is how I look at everyone in school
Ynysmitwr (1 month ago)
What a strange choice of person to illustrate a video about charisma! Corden makes very many people in the UK shudder. Perhaps that's why he's gone to America. In this country he frequently comes across as arrogant and loud and his humour as laddish and dated. To many he has an unappealing, thespy air of entitlement and -- the biggest sin of all on this side of the Atlantic -- he's attention-seeking. I really dislike tarring whole nations with one brush, but if Corden's 'qualities' are really admired so very much in your country then that can only fuel the prejudices of those who consider most Americans to be not only loud and insincere but also far too fond of fawning on those who are in love with themselves. > Ynysmitwr dons tin hat and retreats to hastily dug trench in back garden <
TheUserInTheRoom (1 month ago)
This video is useless junk that does NOT benefit the survival of an individual.
LegionMeerkat7 (1 month ago)
Cmon Zachary Levi, you’re supposed to be fun and nice especially now that he is Shazam
calliph (1 month ago)
I think using actors/ performers is an awful example. Majority of all these interactions are rehearsed, scripted or fake/ forced. The only reason any of these celebrities even go on all these shit talk shows is to promote something they've done and are contractually obligated. Of course you're gonna be nice on TV if it's your job or career on the line.
Alex Zierhut (1 month ago)
I like you explaining a compliment and then chow the example.
James is so fake.
Brandon Phommabout (1 month ago)
A video for canadians
Intyago Rahimatulla (1 month ago)
daaaammmmnnn mat damon is buft
Brieen (1 month ago)
He’s a hamster that’s why
TheMenthologist (1 month ago)
I'm in band. Once there was a boy who got many praises for being good at playing trumpet by the teacher. He let someone else who plays saxophone to try the trumpet. I made a joke (many people made), "You're already better than (insert name)," in a sarcastic manner and he got very defensive and pissed. What an awkward situation.
I have a very broad sence of humor. And I like the digging humor, but usualy if someone makes mean jokes, I mirror them. Pretty much, allowing them to set the line because I know I am able to handle most thungs and if they make a mean joke, they should be able to handle a mean joke. But if it's to much I usualy just does one of those ignores that James did in your example.
Giga Warrior (1 month ago)
I already knew this. XD
Nigel Liotta (1 month ago)
"Matt Damon and Fat Damon" is a good joke.
Miss_Smiley1 Vermeulen (1 month ago)
Question: can u maybe say something on the lines of 'I love ur blue jacket. I really want one then maybe I can be as charming as u'. Can that maybe work?
francis future s (1 month ago)
Fat Damon was funny though
I know someone who compliments everyone and makes everything positive. It has made people not trust him bc they know he's a bs artist. So if you are doing to try this "concept", you'd better be master at it, because people will figure you out. Also, remember, he's ACTING to get funny votes. It's his style, and it's used to make money. If you think he's like this in real life daily, then you assume his entire life is a tv show. He likely wakes up grouchy like everyone else. This video should be, "How to Act Like a Comedian".
Miracleberry1 (1 month ago)
I don't like James Corden BECAUSE he is nice.
Romans 6:23 (6 days ago)
lol? 😂😂😂
Anghel Raul (1 month ago)
I thought the funhouse mirror comment was hilarious and I'm fat.... How is that mean spirited? How is James gonna get offended at that. It's a fact. He weights more than Matt Damon. If you get offended about that and are not able to laugh at yourself because it hurts your precious little ego and your glass confidence, then the problem is you, not the person making the joke. James is faking being offended. You can see he is trying to not laugh....
Latie G (1 month ago)
I wish I had James whit. It takes me a week to come up with a clever comeback.
Christian Ball (1 month ago)
i have that same blue checkered shirt at the end =D
Kenzo (1 month ago)
k this show teaches more than mandatory school
Ken Richard (1 month ago)
Inflate someone's ego at your own expense. Markie Mark and Matt Damon appear to be wearing the same shirt, but MM is bigger.
Thegame .Dev (1 month ago)
The bit about directed compliments being more effective also applies to insults. The best insults are the ones that wouldn't apply to anyone except your target.
Dragens2 (1 month ago)
be nice but have teeth.
pugilat123456 (1 month ago)
It works if you want to be the nice funny fat friend. Kind of a bad strategy if you want to be charismatic
Arthur (1 month ago)
This stuff really resonates to me and the video was very straightforward. Thanks man! Great job.
Charisma on Command (1 month ago)
~ Glad it connected with you, Arthur!
Dekugh (1 month ago)
Meh he is boring and unfunny
Ed Cenatus (1 month ago)
Yo I told a girl she looked good in the middle of class and she couldn’t look straight at me for the rest of the period 😂 am is weird
Jesse Collins (1 month ago)
Just hate conservatives and try get employed in Hollywood lol
James is my Chris Farley incarnate. I love you! xoxoxo
What is Joe Montana doing still looking so my gosh hot?!!!
penis (1 month ago)
James Corden is so fucking unlikeable though...
Emmanuel Goldstein (1 month ago)
Why do we want to make people feel good and like us? Because we crave for their validation. Because we’re struggling with our self-worth.
Longurimont (1 month ago)
Push pull! That’s some RSD shit right there XD
Matt Ach (1 month ago)
How to be nice while being a dick. Be condescending. Not hard. This dude is a fat waste of fuckin time
Your Keto Best Friend (1 month ago)
I can't wait to binge your entire channel omg
mredd888 (1 month ago)
When will the tutorials for Life 2 come out? I’ve had this for ages but I’m a bit stuck?
Nunzio C (2 months ago)
Matt Damon & fat damon hahaha
Rodia Shema (2 months ago)
He's a great person
Bob Clift (2 months ago)
"He threw so many interceptions that he led the league in tackles two years in a row." - Joe Montana on Terry Bradshaw
Stefanos Papadopoulos (2 months ago)
The fact we need instructions in order to function shows how bad technology ruined social aspect of our lives...
Hugs not Drugs (2 months ago)
Zetsuke4 (2 months ago)
I watch james corden a lot but i find it weird that this channel is labeling him as a Nice guy
Wojak Sánchez (2 months ago)
This clickbait "how to be charismatic" videos are the worst thing on YT
kayra c (2 months ago)
Ploxxy bb (2 months ago)
but... what if you hate people?
oriana garrido (2 months ago)
This was in m recommended *Youtube, are you trying to tell me something?*
oriana garrido (2 months ago)
This was in m recommended *Youtube, are you trying to tell me something?*
Phillyboi215 (2 months ago)
This one here is probably the most difficult. Being nice without being an asshole to defend your own honor. Wow. Gotta watch this video more than once for sure
Furaha Aswan (2 months ago)
I feel like a sociopath when I watch his vids. Lol
En K (2 months ago)
do you have videos for flirting for lgbt people? c:
En K (2 months ago)
Lorenzo Benito (2 months ago)
It's strange to watch videos like these, because I have absolutely no respect whatsoever for Hollywood celebrities. Although I understand, intellectually, that this advice can be applied to many situations, I instinctively recoil from the idea of making people like these like me.
leeeee666 (2 months ago)
I was going to make a comment about men being mean is their affection, but I've decided to change it. The last half of this video is all about jokes. Mean spirited jokes are funny to some people, so don't tell anyone they are not. I don't think James Corden is funny 95% of the time yet he has a massive fan base. Does that mean James is not funny, not at all. I just know how to tell a funny rape joke and he doesn't which is fine. I don't want friends who can't find something funny in everything.
AH Unknown (2 months ago)
Pls make a video on how to complement without sounding fake since a lot of girls would say/whisper to there friends that "shes faking it, trying to act nice so she'll get the attention what a plastic" even though she was actually nice and isn't trying to get attention 🙁 please help
porcelain (2 months ago)
if someone compliments me and i dont know them i immediatey become suspicious and mistrustful
Lovely Wolf (26 days ago)
Same here wow.
Izzy May Be Great (1 month ago)
I’m just socially awkward so someone’s like, I like your hair. And I’m like, you’re welcome.
porcelain (2 months ago)
>love people big LUL
meg bal (2 months ago)
I might not give you alpha vibes but this, This is my forte!
Tom Ryan (2 months ago)
Matt Damon and Fat Damon was good. C'mon, he can see himself.
Chandler G (2 months ago)
Basically platonic negging?
M Huh (2 months ago)
All of these robotic tutorials can be learned by watching Fresh Prince of Bel Air.
Paul Wolf (2 months ago)
Your stuff is brilliant.
Rolo World Tour (2 months ago)
Lol James fat fucking Gordan is widely hated
DarkBlueFlower (2 months ago)
James Corden is fake as fuck. He plays those parts where he pretends to be nice. In real life he is one of the shittiest public persons I know. Sorry, to say it this harshly but if you knew what is going on behind the scenes you would be ashamed to work for him or to be his friend.
Danny Spelman (2 months ago)
I fucking hate James Corden!

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