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These are the six mindsets that will make you charismatic and magnetic! We talked about it on the channel about the the eye contact, the body language, and the tonality that conveys charisma but behind all of those things, there are mindsets. And the mindsets are so critical because when you have them in line, all of a sudden, you don't really have to think about the eye contact as much and it just happens and your body flows naturally and your tonality is on point. So in this video, what I want to do is cover these six most important mindsets that will make you magnetic and this is a topic that I've covered before but today, I am very happy because we have the help of After Skool to animate this and make it much more interesting updating it for 2018.
And those mindsets are, starting with number one — no matter what, I will be okay. In my opinion, this is the most fundamental mindset to charisma because so many people live their life wrapped in this sort of mental loop of what-if questions. "What if I speak up and my boss doesn't like my idea? What if I asked this girl on a date and she says no? What if I'd leaned in for a kiss and even worse, she ducks away?" "What if I were to ask this person to go just as a friend out to coffee and they said, 'I was busy that day'?" All of these sorts of things stop people from acting, from speaking up, and from expressing who they really are.
0:35 No matter what happens, you will be okay
2:17 Care more about your character than your reputation
3:19 Have impeccable honesty and impeccable integrity
5:28 You don't need to convince anyone of any particular belief
7:39 Start communicating your purpose more proactively
9:00 The last mindset is that you need to start going first
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*Strongly* disagree on the lying part. Lies are incredibly important to navigating the world in a socially acceptable way.
If I'm at my best friend's wedding and I just found out I'm being evicted from my apartment, if they ask me, "Hey, how's it going?" in no world should I start going on about my problems. In fact I would argue that to not lie in that situation is incredibly selfish.
There are a million situations where being honest is a complete dick move.
Trying to apply any universal rule 100% of the time is a recipe for disaster. Life isn't black and white. There are many times when the only benefit to telling the truth is that you feel better about yourself, at the cost of dragging the people around you down.
AWESOME insight. The “No matter what happens I will be Ok” is incredibly powerful. This is my go-to video when I’m wrapped in fear. The relationship between impeccable truth and self conviction and self esteem...oh my goodness! Thanks Charlie.
the i will be ok part, see my brain over exaggerate every action before i do it no matter what the situation is, Like it could be me wanting to ask a worker in supermarket about a certain product right? my brain makes these bad scenarios to the point i'd imagine that person killing or hurting me physically then i'd stop and walk away !!!
I REALLY HATE THIS ABOUT MYSELF AND IDK HOW TO CHANGE IT 💔
The honesty thing is so true. People become liars when they become comfortable with small lies, that becomes a gateway to everything else. Even in situations where I "need" to lie, I phrase things in a way where I'm not actually lying. That helps set the precedence for future interactions.
And now I see
That one sentence I gave out where I believed in myself completely on the first day of class and said it with no hesitation is the reason that class decided to gravitate towards me
In fact it’s why all those people started to gravitate towards me and whenever I struggle to do that or give out that energy in a class that class is always dull
Over the past few months I’ve been giving less and less of a shit about what people think of me and I’ve noticed that 1 and 2 are really connecting with me. I’m a lot more bold socially and with life I’m general and it feels fucking great. On top of that I’m being myself while I’m doing it and realizing that I’ve always been charming just not with people I don’t know. I look forward to applying this more in the upcoming months and seeing what happens!
Generally I like this animation, but it annoyed me that I could tell it was being erased in reverse. Sort of a lie in itself lol. If you can do it artfully enough, that kind of 'lie' becomes magic. Either erase it less obviously, and make it magic, or be truthful and film the drawing of it.
Love the message! But your comment about the men broadcasting their dreams out to the people on the streets not equating to LOA or speaking to the Universe, Was little misguiding. And in this situation the Universe you have to mindful of can be anything! Could be other people. Or it could be a rock. Or a wall. Everything in the Universe is the Universe. And that being said , An extremely important thing people lose sight of is that when you broadcast your passion and your dreams and what it is that you want to do with your life with genuine energy over time, the Universe responds with opportunity. As it did in the case of the men wanting to play ball with Obama. Great video brother!
Learnt that I’m not communicating my purpose enough. I’ve always cared more about character over my reputation though which is something that I feel proud of.
I’m still learning to go 1st, going 1st has never gone wrong but it is the fear of unknown that keeps me back
"putting your purpose out there". I struggle with this one. because I feel like telling people your plans and goals sometimes will set them up to sabotage you. I've found it better to move in silence. I could be wrong but who else feels this way?
Look bro I'm autistic my problem lays in not reading situations but I suppose people have good opinions of me :/ but I'm a damn weirdo I'm honest as all hell I said the wrong things to this girl I didn't want to see her cry so I told her I was fucking with her :/ I'm not a perfect human being I simply try to be virtueous cause I believe it's right
#6 When we had convocation for incoming freshmen at uni, i was with a small group of people who all wanted to be in STEM-related majors and I told a funny joke but no one laughed at the punchline. Granted, the story was kinda long and silly, but the punchline was *hilarious* (at least i thought so). :(
The best mindset I’ve found was understanding the Hero’s Journey. It’s evident in Star Wars, Harry Potter and how you will battle through adversity but if you keep trying and learning you will end up on top
How do you recommend keeping track of tips and mindsets over time? I love watching videos like this, but I always wonder if there’s a better way or system to retain and revisit the information in the future
I love your channel honestly it is such a help. I grew up mostly with zero charisma but owing to your channel I love testing my charisma and exploiting social situations and being my best. Great work mate what your doing is so unique.
Man you are awesome.. The mindsets that you talked about, few of which I personally have, like the "Care more about your character" and "Be the first one to speak up", used to make me feel different, good and proud about myself, coz I was always able to start a conversation.. I appreciate your work.. All the minsets you listed, says that you are clearly a genuine observer and a practical charismatic guy.. Keep up the good work..
Well said , Dr Jordan Peterson explains how being authentic not only helps ppl around u trust u but it helps u trust yourself. This is a video steeped in advancement physiology and therefor its the tits!!!!!!!!!!!
Please Charlie make a video about Nathaniel Brenden's book "6 pillars of self-esteem." Brief overview, tell the main thoughts. I would be very grateful. Guys, support the likes, let Charlie see)) Thanks