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Sometimes we all say things, unfortunately, that can make other people judge us negatively.
This can really impact our social, business, and familial life.
It can truly be puzzling, especially when we’re unaware of what we’re doing wrong.
Today we’re going to shine some light on how we communicate, so we can clear the clutter that’s blocking our confidence!
0:15 - Phrase #1: “Just”
0:51 - Phrase #2: “I was wondering”
1:13 - Phrase #3: “Is this guy bothering you?”
1:44 - Phrase #4: “Uh… Um… Like…”
2:09 - Phrase #5: “I’m sorry (but)”
2:40 - Phrase #6: “You probably don’t care (but)”
3:02 - Phrase #7: “My (...) is making me”
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If your job involves fixing things (whether that be cars or computers), there's a minefield of phrases that imply lack of confidence. "I've made X change, it should work now". Should work? You either fixed it you didn't. "I've made X, Y, and Z changes and WD40d the flux capacitor to allow it to A, B, and C". They don't care bud. It just comes across as you trying to claim the fix was really complicated, and that if it goes wrong again, that's why. Tell them you fixed it, and anything else they need to be aware of.
I used to say "sorry" way too much, both in writing and in person. The best tip I ever got on this was to swap "sorry" with "thank you", flipping my apology for my behavior into appreciation of the other person's behavior. "Thank you for waiting", "thank you for listening" and thank you for reading my comment.
I've been having a hard time figuring out what to say in emails instead of "I was just wondering." It feels like I need something to start off the message, because just starting right off and saying "When will you finish grading my paper" seems rude
Ive always hated when friends put down their friends in front of girls. I am quick to check somebody on that shit and I never, ever do that to friends. Thats something I learned not to do in high school. It just never sat right with me because it makes you both look low status which is idiotic.
aren't these tips to just appear confident. Not actually be confident. So now you have to add a layer of living a lie and acting for everyone around you on top of not having confidence. Sounds like hell.
Firstly, I’m not at all drawn to people with “confidence”. People who exude “confidence are some of the biggest and most obnoxious idiots I’ve ever encountered in my life. Women are especially susceptible to people who exude “confidence”, because of their biological imperative and reproductive role, but this is also why you they tend to have issues with judgment. Secondly, some of this okay but some of it sounds like cuck advice. It depends on who you’re dealing with and what you want.
Exception to "I'm Sorry" would be the response that should be used when dealing with a narcissist or someone who is being emotionally manipulative, which is, "I'm sorry you chose to feel that way." Or, "I'm sorry you chose to think that."
Lol 2:20 i do the im sorry but so often and it’s ridiculous, I even do it unconsciously because I don’t want to argue or because I don’t want people to get upset and to explain myself thoroughly on why I maybe did something. Such a scummy way of doing things without even knowing about it
I'm wondering how to deal with qualifying your statements when it comes from genuine place of humbleness or unknowing. So with the tips in this video in mind if I were to state my opinion on something which I know is probably not a complete representation of reality I would tend to qualify my statement with something like "I guess" or "I'm not 100% sure". You've probably already addressed this but I'm wondering how to still portray a general sense of confidence when unconfident in a particular statement. This might be too broad of a question.
I stopped w the "just" a while back and it's helped me w owning my confifence and desicions. I also have gotten the art of silence down when there used to be " um" and " like" inserted , a very long time ago. HOWEVER, i didn't even THINK of
" I was wondering" as a sign of no confidence but that makes total sense! Thanks for the tip!
Getting rid of these phrases is like a positive feedback loop; if you say them less you'll actually start feeling more confident, which in turn will make you say these things less. I definitely used to be guilty of some of these and some of them still slip in from time to time, but remember just because you use these sometimes, or with some people doesn't mean you're an insecure person overall, we all have our ups and downs
I have always been confident yet i didn’t seem to be able to show how confident i truly was. I was loud and that was all that defined my confidence, and i knew that. I knew that sometimes i cut myself short and i wanted it to stop. After watching a Ted-Talk i learned about “Fake it till’ you become it.” So i decided to try it out. Every time i felt bad about myself, shy or awkward i would simply act like a confident person, heck i even posed as a superhero. Slowly people wanted to talk to me more and i could comply since i now had gainedthe confidence to handle such attention.
So even if you never think you had confidence, just try acting confident and accepting when you look weird. After alot of fake confidence it will start to become real. I promise it.
Well I have never visited an English speaking country so this is basically how I learned to speak the language. Online. Where people use these phrases all the time. Everyone is so sensitive here, I can't say what I'm thinking without people attacking my character. So I have to use words like "just". I don't freaking know anymore how to speak to you people. Should I come across as some kinda jerk then?
She done me wrong, she said things to destroy my confidence as she was the most trusted one I allowed in, she promised..now she belittles me as soft for having a true heart..says I'm weak man for it..so what's to be confident about..she destroyed me
I really really loved the video, but I wish you can talk slower to follow up, cause the content is so full and rich and I want to think of every word.
Thank you so much for the effort :)
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You know, sometimes filler words is the only way to get over the stattering (I have this problem since 6 years old and doctors can't do anything about it) and sometimes my speech makes very wrong impression about me. Could you make a video for the people who statter, please?=) Thank you.