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7 Common Phrases That Show You Lack Confidence

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Thank you Simple Habit for sponsoring this video! Download the app and try a variety of meditations: https://www.simplehabit.com/charisma [Animation by Zeino]: https://www.youtube.com/zeino Four Emotions for an Amazing First Impression: http://bit.ly/2qsWl1w 5 Common Phrases That Show You Lack Confidence: https://youtu.be/4R-3PPsM8HQ Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-Subscribe Sometimes we all say things, unfortunately, that can make other people judge us negatively. This can really impact our social, business, and familial life. It can truly be puzzling, especially when we’re unaware of what we’re doing wrong. Today we’re going to shine some light on how we communicate, so we can clear the clutter that’s blocking our confidence! ⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 0:15 - Phrase #1: “Just” 0:51 - Phrase #2: “I was wondering” 1:13 - Phrase #3: “Is this guy bothering you?” 1:44 - Phrase #4: “Uh… Um… Like…” 2:09 - Phrase #5: “I’m sorry (but)” 2:40 - Phrase #6: “You probably don’t care (but)” 3:02 - Phrase #7: “My (...) is making me” ------------------------------------------------------------------ #BeConfident #CharismaOnCommand #Animation ------------------------------------------------------------------ Connect With Us Further: Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.com Facebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommand Instagram: @CharismaOnCommand Or if you want to see our personal stuff (regular life + playing music): Instagram: @CharlieHoupert Instagram: @IamBenAltman
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Barbarian Brain (2 days ago)
Well apparently when I don’t do these things and be confident people call me rude ???
Ed Onslow (3 days ago)
If your job involves fixing things (whether that be cars or computers), there's a minefield of phrases that imply lack of confidence. "I've made X change, it should work now". Should work? You either fixed it you didn't. "I've made X, Y, and Z changes and WD40d the flux capacitor to allow it to A, B, and C". They don't care bud. It just comes across as you trying to claim the fix was really complicated, and that if it goes wrong again, that's why. Tell them you fixed it, and anything else they need to be aware of.
OnlyINTheHood (3 days ago)
its just 12 dollars a month or IT IS 12 DOLLARS A MONTH
shivam shukla (3 days ago)
Here after beerbiceps
LUIOFFICIAL (4 days ago)
I -just- want to see Avengers 4 but George HW Bush died WTF
Foxtrot6624 (4 days ago)
Every single one of these points is completely subjective.
I think these can still happen, buy it depends on how you act before and after its said.
Voyage Tales (4 days ago)
Cincinnati gang
『Freeman』 (4 days ago)
Love the animation!
Daniel LaCosse (4 days ago)
why is confidence even important
Jack Bouchier (4 days ago)
Hey do you feel anxious about every day language and feel unconfident when talking to people? Here's 10 tiny details to fixate on because you're not acceptable if you're not confident!
Jack Bouchier (4 days ago)
2:50 Feeling unconfident in what you want to say? Just be more confident! Problem solved!
Sorry, not sorry
Succulent Ravioli (5 days ago)
*my wife is making me a sandwich*
Captain Brown Beard (5 days ago)
Just make yourself independent and show everyone you dont need them. They will flock to you
Blue7 (5 days ago)
Very good animation 👍
Joshua Koch (6 days ago)
i literally am disgusted when people do these things, cut all these habits out when i was maybe 17.
Try Me (6 days ago)
0:58 Artist was having fun 😂
Connor Henderson (6 days ago)
2:12 someone isnt canadian
WeebabuuOVA (6 days ago)
I do lack confidence tho
TheVersatileHunter (6 days ago)
Just remember, too much confidence is dangerous. Examine your behaviour from time to time and make sure it doesn't cross the line to over-confidence or arrogance.
Stylesheet RA (6 days ago)
I'm so full of confidence I dont even speak to others
RJRozen (6 days ago)
I’m sorry, but I was just wondering, like uhm, why my recommended is making me watch this, like uhm, you probably don’t care anyways but, I just thought that this guy might be bothering you.
junglesvend (7 days ago)
I used to say "sorry" way too much, both in writing and in person. The best tip I ever got on this was to swap "sorry" with "thank you", flipping my apology for my behavior into appreciation of the other person's behavior. "Thank you for waiting", "thank you for listening" and thank you for reading my comment.
Booza Wizard (7 days ago)
jesus youtube, i know i have the self-confidence as a dying washed up filthy rat but seriously, dont need videos like this in my recommenced, good vid tho i guess
Ricardo Juarez (7 days ago)
Well RIP me doing all these.
Lucca Nova (7 days ago)
This video is bs lmao
RexusprimeIX (7 days ago)
Excuse me ma'am, is this waste of a sperm bothering your grace?
Anonimusly Hidden (7 days ago)
Hah well jokes on you I have no confidence. Heh
Taimur (8 days ago)
I immediately thought of Jake Paul when they mentioned, "like" I'm glad they included him in lmao
Yiding Yang (8 days ago)
2:17, I’m sorry but
hombretropical (8 days ago)
I've been having a hard time figuring out what to say in emails instead of "I was just wondering." It feels like I need something to start off the message, because just starting right off and saying "When will you finish grading my paper" seems rude
DocZero (8 days ago)
I will probably sound way more insecure just by trying to avoid saying these words
Akward (9 days ago)
I mean, my boss is forcing me to work and if I don't I'll lose my job that supports my living... But, hey! It's worth a date that will most likely go wrong
Critical Crusader (9 days ago)
Just don’t talk to people who make a big deal out of phrases.
punch3870 (9 days ago)
This is great and all, if one had the confidence to speak with strangers. At places where one speaks with strangers. Uh.... *panic mode engage* *locks myself in my room and plays minecraft*
Callum (9 days ago)
The ad at the start took too long and I didn't have time to watch this video sorry
Reilly Hodge (9 days ago)
Try to replace your “sorry”s with “thank you”s. Like instead of saying “sorry I’m late”, try saying “thank you for waiting for me”.
Mitko Mehlema (9 days ago)
Some times i watch these just to feel good about myself, i never do these 😄
FrogFraction (10 days ago)
protip: not using these words doesn't make you confident.
Bonsie (10 days ago)
Yo b0ss, i habe cancer
Max Fischer (10 days ago)
It's so annoying when people say "like" to much, it makes them sound like they are uneducated and stupid
al zolez (10 days ago)
Ive always hated when friends put down their friends in front of girls. I am quick to check somebody on that shit and I never, ever do that to friends. Thats something I learned not to do in high school. It just never sat right with me because it makes you both look low status which is idiotic.
Audiodump (10 days ago)
Honestly, I've watched a few of these videos and you don't come off as charismatic, you come off as an astoundingly fake person. Like a used car salesman.
NATESOR (10 days ago)
aren't these tips to just appear confident. Not actually be confident. So now you have to add a layer of living a lie and acting for everyone around you on top of not having confidence. Sounds like hell.
Tom Maldonado (10 days ago)
They seem like they are helping, but really they don't know what makes a confident person.
kwnyupstate (10 days ago)
I have the confidence that I don't care what people think about the ways I talk to them.
Munib Ahmad (10 days ago)
Come on guys...... I *just* want some likes....
Phyllis (10 days ago)
Boon Doggle (10 days ago)
Firstly, I’m not at all drawn to people with “confidence”. People who exude “confidence are some of the biggest and most obnoxious idiots I’ve ever encountered in my life. Women are especially susceptible to people who exude “confidence”, because of their biological imperative and reproductive role, but this is also why you they tend to have issues with judgment. Secondly, some of this okay but some of it sounds like cuck advice. It depends on who you’re dealing with and what you want.
Khan Skywalker (11 days ago)
*Lets grab a drink on Saturday.* Case closed.
baal of babylon (11 days ago)
Exception to "I'm Sorry" would be the response that should be used when dealing with a narcissist or someone who is being emotionally manipulative, which is, "I'm sorry you chose to feel that way." Or, "I'm sorry you chose to think that."
Indrid Cold (11 days ago)
I lack confidence. Why bother hiding it? It is not as if I know anybody. I have no friends.
Rogan Josh (11 days ago)
If you go silent in conversation you flat out get fucking interrupted. maybe i'm just a boring shite
Rogan Josh (11 days ago)
ProMrLecoq01 (11 days ago)
Lol 2:20 i do the im sorry but so often and it’s ridiculous, I even do it unconsciously because I don’t want to argue or because I don’t want people to get upset and to explain myself thoroughly on why I maybe did something. Such a scummy way of doing things without even knowing about it
Ben Spiceo (11 days ago)
I HATE it when someone says 'Like' so many times.🌋
Thomas Ward (11 days ago)
I'm wondering how to deal with qualifying your statements when it comes from genuine place of humbleness or unknowing. So with the tips in this video in mind if I were to state my opinion on something which I know is probably not a complete representation of reality I would tend to qualify my statement with something like "I guess" or "I'm not 100% sure". You've probably already addressed this but I'm wondering how to still portray a general sense of confidence when unconfident in a particular statement. This might be too broad of a question.
Brenda De La Rosa (11 days ago)
I stopped w the "just" a while back and it's helped me w owning my confifence and desicions. I also have gotten the art of silence down when there used to be " um" and " like" inserted , a very long time ago. HOWEVER, i didn't even THINK of " I was wondering" as a sign of no confidence but that makes total sense! Thanks for the tip!
samStor - styleSchool (11 days ago)
my blank is making me sleepy
Tristhan Sarmiento (12 days ago)
0:52 I saw what u did there
sachyktothea (12 days ago)
When did you make this vid ? A new bridget jones movie hasnt been out for AGES.
lahoku (12 days ago)
New subscriber
Brother Shield (12 days ago)
As the starks used to say everything before the word BUT is Horseshit
ObviouslyASMR (12 days ago)
Getting rid of these phrases is like a positive feedback loop; if you say them less you'll actually start feeling more confident, which in turn will make you say these things less. I definitely used to be guilty of some of these and some of them still slip in from time to time, but remember just because you use these sometimes, or with some people doesn't mean you're an insecure person overall, we all have our ups and downs
Nelson Roberts (12 days ago)
Could I say my bad instead of sorry?
Liberal Logic (12 days ago)
I am a slave I work 2 jobs my main job makes me late to my side job. All jobs are dumb cheaters anyways.
Andrew Shah-ntz (12 days ago)
Best way to have confidence; get pissed off. You have to own it though. No physical violence, but assertive emphasis. Really mean it.
Irène Belot (12 days ago)
Words to keep out of conversations: - Just - I was wondering - umm/uh/like - I'm sorry/I'm sorry but... - My.....is making me - Is this guy bothering you? - You probably don't care but...
Irène Belot (12 days ago)
Words to keep out of conversations: - Just - I was wondering - ummm/like - I'm sorry/I'm sorry but - My.....is making me - Is this guy bothering you?
ok but over confidence is intimidating. use these phrases sometimes, it seems more casual and relatable
SuperSaiyansUnited (12 days ago)
I dont give a shit about anything on this video, because I'm confident lmao.
Unavai Lable (12 days ago)
Men AND women need to stop using UPSPEAK inflections
mohamed adel (12 days ago)
i hate the music
Reinhardt Miller (12 days ago)
A Scott (12 days ago)
Be assertive folks !!!
ThePlumScrub (12 days ago)
I have always been confident yet i didn’t seem to be able to show how confident i truly was. I was loud and that was all that defined my confidence, and i knew that. I knew that sometimes i cut myself short and i wanted it to stop. After watching a Ted-Talk i learned about “Fake it till’ you become it.” So i decided to try it out. Every time i felt bad about myself, shy or awkward i would simply act like a confident person, heck i even posed as a superhero. Slowly people wanted to talk to me more and i could comply since i now had gainedthe confidence to handle such attention. So even if you never think you had confidence, just try acting confident and accepting when you look weird. After alot of fake confidence it will start to become real. I promise it.
TheInternet Sucks (12 days ago)
Well I have never visited an English speaking country so this is basically how I learned to speak the language. Online. Where people use these phrases all the time. Everyone is so sensitive here, I can't say what I'm thinking without people attacking my character. So I have to use words like "just". I don't freaking know anymore how to speak to you people. Should I come across as some kinda jerk then?
Noah Joseph FENECH (13 days ago)
Can you do a video on finding a ballance of confidence, or how to much confidence can make you appear weird in conversation or story tellign, this might allready exist but just wondering
Shady (13 days ago)
Actual factual
I like the new animation
Grizzly Spear (13 days ago)
Just stop giving a fuck, change your mind set and your life will change
Will Senechal (13 days ago)
0:00 my boy skipping LEG DAY!!!
edward (13 days ago)
some of the characters in this video are going to give me nightmares tonight...
Des Bro (13 days ago)
I've been mentally rehearsing since I was seven.
MeatloafGreaserFilms (13 days ago)
Hahah but we been known, everyone knows i have cripplingly low self esteem, whops
Mark Jacob (13 days ago)
She done me wrong, she said things to destroy my confidence as she was the most trusted one I allowed in, she promised..now she belittles me as soft for having a true heart..says I'm weak man for it..so what's to be confident about..she destroyed me
boimackhead (13 days ago)
lol at soon as you talked about 'uh... um... like' I automatically thought of Jake Paul and then you featured him
Templarkiller (13 days ago)
For the one where you are telling someone about something they might not like and you have to be confident, bad news should be excluded, "I am sorry but you are dying" rather than "Ha, get dead."
WolfPhysiKs (13 days ago)
While you were talking about filler words I immediately thought of Jake Paul. And then you showed clips of him 😂
Thoroughly Wet (13 days ago)
I'm sorry I say sorry all the time
Veronika Vařáková (13 days ago)
Nervous boys and gals are cute, let them be
Sanaa Alsadi (13 days ago)
I really really loved the video, but I wish you can talk slower to follow up, cause the content is so full and rich and I want to think of every word. Thank you so much for the effort :) Notification button on! Great!
refine (13 days ago)
Lol the vid was JUST an excuse to promote the App
Dmitry Malinowski (14 days ago)
Hello Charlie, You know, sometimes filler words is the only way to get over the stattering (I have this problem since 6 years old and doctors can't do anything about it) and sometimes my speech makes very wrong impression about me. Could you make a video for the people who statter, please?=) Thank you.
Nothing At all (14 days ago)
Heh, no u
Bradley Adams (14 days ago)
As soon as you said don’t use “like” I immediately thought of that Jake Paul interview 😂
I just want to die.
Yamamoto (14 days ago)
2:33 how ironic that in a video about how to MANIPULATE people into thinking you're confident, it is stated that manipulation is a bad thing lol
Ryuku Matoi (14 days ago)
the background music is kinda loud distracting
Georg Bergsten (14 days ago)
When did you turn into the infographic show?

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