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How To Stop Caring What People Think

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How To Stop Caring What People Think Discover The 4 Emotions You Need To Make a Killer First Impression: http://bit.ly/2nNVCa0 Have you ever lied about an odd hobby you have? Or maybe your job status? Or your height? Or even just avoided putting yourself in a situation in which you knew you were likely to fail? Why did you do that? Short answer: because you were embarrassed. Embarrassment comes from trying to control how other people perceive you. So instead of just showing the world your nerdy hobby, say you collect Beanie Babies, you go “I don’t want people to think I’m a dweeb.” and you pretend you don’t have one. The same process plays out with hobbies as it does with mistakes we’ve made, areas in which we are weak, and areas where we might get publicly rejected. We hide what we don’t want people to know about us. We conform to what other people would like us to be. But that doesn’t have to be the answer: Because there is another, more empowering mindset: Instead of focusing on other’s perceptions and feeling embarrassed about what they may think… Focus on whether or not you live up to YOUR OWN values. That's what this video is about and that's how you'll learn to stop caring what people think about you. Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-Subscribe Connect With Us Further: Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.com Facebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommand Periscope: https://www.periscope.tv/charismaon Or if you want to see my personal stuff (my regular life + me playing music): Instagram: @CharlieHoupert Periscope: @CharlieHoupert Animations by RSDF Studios, Jakarta (http://rambatansaddhadhika.co.id/) Art: Bonni Rambatan, Dwinanda Edo Editing: Bonni Rambatan
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Lewiski (1 day ago)
What if your value is to have a good image?
marelicainavokado (3 days ago)
Nickelback and Trump, hehe. Honestly, It's hard to find a balance. Being yourself when you're an introvert won't help you since fitting in it is important - unless you have the brains of Einstein, you'll have trouble finding a job without connections. If you don't bother with shaving, have short hair and wear baggy clothes, no guy will want you. We need to find that limit after which it's OK to not to care.
Zidneya (5 days ago)
>Make a killer impression. >Stop caring what people think. Pick one.
Master Of Battle (5 days ago)
Limitless and undefined...As we should be!
Olivia Hanke (6 days ago)
listening to nickelback is honestly not ok
Fire Rat (6 days ago)
Love, love, love this!!! Thank you ❤️
ThatGuy Man (10 days ago)
0:50 What if we have no values
Silver Kane (10 days ago)
Huh so am a self - absorb jerk Neat
Vivi J (10 days ago)
hardest skill to master
safa (11 days ago)
i feel scared not embarrassed i can't standup for my self
Calvinsky Malbert (12 days ago)
hamilton tried it and failed(reynold pamphlet)
Razor0Sharp (12 days ago)
I get laughed at but I shouldn't care because it helps afterwards
RedheadDevil (14 days ago)
Qwop for mistakes 😅
Daman Batth (14 days ago)
I soooo needed this right now
Gaming with Che (14 days ago)
And you're free.
Nick H (17 days ago)
Only partially true. I do what I want but have to stay single and friendless because nobody likes me. I was tortured mercilessly in school which taught me at a young age that I am a piece of garbage that no one will ever love. I just don’t trust anyone and will never reveal my quirks because they are not mainstream. It is far better for me to never tell anyone anything because either no one will care or they’ll judge me.
No Fucks Given! (21 days ago)
Try to say "I dont care what people think" 100 times a day, every day. It will help by time!
kara m (23 days ago)
Thanks for this.. I don't like my neighbors for they like to gossip everyone...now I won't care about them anymore.
Uv Knights (23 days ago)
How other people perceive u
Lamar Arafa (25 days ago)
IM SO lonely ppl think I'm mean and ugly but I'm just a small innocent child
s.epi.editzzz (26 days ago)
Do you live up to your own values (me: so its the same)
dry skin gal (28 days ago)
Im just an awkward ball of oatmeal with depression and anxiety yaaaaay
Emily Amelia (29 days ago)
*Make America Great Again* Made in China
Joyson Wildhart (1 month ago)
how to stop caring what people think: stop needing things from them
helder pelegrino (1 month ago)
maybe hide th nickelback part
Alex Sherrill (1 month ago)
lmao QWOP
Rebeckahsscanner (1 month ago)
2:15 those are really fatty crisps
Devotchka (1 month ago)
I DON'T CARE WHAT PEOPLE THINK but you just won't leave me alone!!!!
DJ SAVAGE (1 month ago)
bingo can anyone say social media mf faking in them pictures
Adrian Mannion (1 month ago)
Meh vid. ALL anxiety and stress comes from social anxiety. My tips are: 1. Spend less time in your head and try consciously doing more observation of others, in a curious kinda way without jumping to judgement. So just passively observe people, look at them. It will help defuse your tension, they're just another person. It's exhausting scanning your thoughts for social thoughts and threats so stop doing that! 2. Stop setting high social standards for yourself. You're bound to fail if your expectations are much too high. 3. Stop avoiding people and stop engaging in safety behaviours (cigarette breaks, using phone to avoid conversations, changing direction when you see someone, alcohol etc). It just re enforces in your mind the notion that social situations are dangerous. 4. Stop negative thinking. Maintain a daily positive social engagement log. Whether that be something positive someone said to you or something socially positive you did. Socially anxious and shy people tend to remember (and seek out memories) of negative social interactions. They can vividly remember negative social interactions from like 20 years ago, but struggle to remember a positive one from 2 days ago. Realise that people are probably thinking many of the social negative thoughts as you are. So they're pointless thoughts really.
rohith reddy (1 month ago)
Blonde in the video made me lol 1:40
Vineeth Vishnu (1 month ago)
Why is Donald Trump in this video?
METALHEAD_GAMING (1 month ago)
Lmao nickelback
Liam Maple (2 months ago)
I really needed this.
Charisma on Command (1 month ago)
~ Hope you found it helpful. :-)
Aniket Wagh (2 months ago)
I always knew this was the answer.. but you always need someone else to spell it out for you... Which is everything I needed
Mary Klingeisen (2 months ago)
I collect dolls
Phaksoder Goven (2 months ago)
100% true!you make my stronger,wonderful teaching. I love it
Priyanka Jayne (2 months ago)
My sub went to a good course 💕
Whitney Nike lover (2 months ago)
Helpful
YA Gamer (2 months ago)
Don't CaRe What people think of u because it is their problem, not yours
Inamullah sajid (18 days ago)
💯💯💯
Alba FV (2 months ago)
Okay, but still– HOW to do that. In the video it's mentioned what to do instead, not HOW to do it.
Feywyn Nightrunner (1 month ago)
First the reason people mistreat those who are authentically themselves is because they are cowards and have chosen to fit in/conform. Thus they get very resentful and angry at those who chose to be their authentic self, so they try to tear down those who have the courage they lack. Here is the HOW, when others try to make you feel bad about yourself, just remind yourself that they are frightened of what others think of them and they lack the courage to be themselves and will ALWAYS be miserable trying to FIT IN. Remember that being yourself maybe difficult because of those type of people, but YOU will always be happier then them, because you know WHO you are and are not ashamed of the real you.
Komal Bhardwaj (2 months ago)
Thankyou ☺️
Sotheavy Choun (2 months ago)
I don’t care what people think of me But on another good side I willingness to accept truth correction/ discipline
Yaakov Reed (2 months ago)
Heyyy!! you used the "because" on us. 3:52. Because youtube requires it now. Don't use tricks your teaching us on your students.
Luis Stop motion studios (2 months ago)
I am made fun of sometimes cause I dress like someone from 1950
IThinkWithMy Dick (2 months ago)
2:16 All the bullshit you said before this IS a perfectly valid REASON (not "excuse" as you derisively call it) to let yourself go.
Lamont Hicks (2 months ago)
That's awesome
Danny Leo (2 months ago)
You're awesome , thanks alot
Caín Yañez (2 months ago)
Hahaha the drawings are awesome. Gonna subscribe just for that.
Lauren Chavez (3 months ago)
This was literally just was I needed today. Thanks for creating awesome content
Charisma on Command (2 months ago)
~ Happy to make them! Thanks for your support. :-)
cute_lil_critter (3 months ago)
The first 40 seconds made me really sad...
Azarino (3 months ago)
Try telling this to an INFJ. Easier for INFPs to do this. (MBTI btw).
Vicente Valdés (3 months ago)
marry me
Mista Mase (3 months ago)
fuck nickelback bruh.
S.E.S Rollins (3 months ago)
Thanks for helping
Awoken Alchemist (3 months ago)
Preach ❤️
Nelson Mandela (3 months ago)
ahahah nickelback
Vic Toria (3 months ago)
All the dislikes are from the fat acceptance movement.
Aiden James (3 months ago)
Act without expectation.
Marijnnl 32 (3 months ago)
We need tot think What other people think of us that's is how we improve i mean shame isnt a bad things Just do whatever you want but you dont need tot tell IT to all people couse embaresbent is natural and we do t like IT for a reason
Tiger Whitten (3 months ago)
Yo everyone says I'm high when I feel I'm just saying profound shit that they can't follow mentally. I don't want to become shallow as a result of this but fuck I just gotta get through high school ughh what do I do??
Inner Core (3 months ago)
what is the right thing? standard setup by society?
Tanja Steinrötter (3 months ago)
Number one:Be Iggy Pop.
Yael Mori goanis (3 months ago)
Thank you so much! Such a great video who helped me a lot, and the style of your animation made the video even more entertaining
Charisma on Command (3 months ago)
~ Glad you found the video helpful. :-)
Calum79 (3 months ago)
This video changed me.
Do whatever the fuck pleases you, why? Because in the end people will judge you anyways.
Marko (3 months ago)
I am saving money and I will climb Mont Blanc when I save enough to do it
Justin Caldero (3 months ago)
I blush/feel embarrassed when attention is drawn to me
Maximum Effort (3 months ago)
Thank you for the “out of shape talk” agreed that what we may go through helps us become who we are. Kind of like when people say “God why” theres your why
Waffle AD (3 months ago)
eyy, I learned something! It has always echoed that people should do the right thing. But I never took it to heart. Sometimes I would see trash on the ground and never pick it up, but only because I thought I would look wierd pulling up trash from the ground. Now I'll be sure to pick up trash re-assured it's the right thing to do, because I especially say so.
Suhas Prasad (3 months ago)
But I think it's useful to keep them to myself. Can't I achieve the same whatevers without exposing (publicly shaming) myself?
Mikky Z (3 months ago)
What if I dont have a dream job? What if simply liv ng my life is my dream job? What if I consider jobs a form of well hidden money driven self slavery?
Mikky Z (3 months ago)
Maybe I shall become a Buddha hahahahahahah. Lmao
ProProcrastinator 2k18 (3 months ago)
Just be too busy with your own life to even think about you validation with others
Jobe, The Old Hunter (3 months ago)
Im growing out of this problem. Conformity isnt good.
Vex Rise (4 months ago)
Brooo I really appreciate it thanx I needed thiss!💪💪
TenzoG (4 months ago)
Every girl ever in highschool, overload on makeup just to fit "Standards".
Diamond-chan 19 (4 months ago)
That would be hard...
David Stanford (4 months ago)
Great video. It really gets quickly to the heart of the problem of being fearful and embarrassed. Love it!
svt carrot (4 months ago)
this is so helpful.
Charisma on Command (4 months ago)
~ Glad you're finding it helpful!
Kinga Gorski (4 months ago)
These animations are incredible haha.
Naaah Fam (4 months ago)
Cool, now how to do those things in the video?
Alisha Draine (4 months ago)
I love YOUTUBE!!
Alisha Draine (4 months ago)
Like your animations...can u make a video on being less nervous on job interviews I wanna c your cartoons😌
Ethan Thomas (4 months ago)
That was a very good speech; makes me want to k*]] Donald Trump! XD
Rachael Wong (4 months ago)
the problem is every time when I try to ignore what others say about me,I mess up every time.my ears are not listening to what I'm thinking.and I can't control them.
joe shmoe (4 months ago)
This is easier said than done
igot7 coco (4 months ago)
There is only one thing I hate about my myself it my height I am short, and my height is also the reason I have social judgment because of my height
Mr Brown (4 months ago)
Im a 36 year old man whose been a gamer since I was a kid and I fancy teddy bears but i don’t collect plush teddy bears. No women will like me for these 😬
MR Bolo (4 months ago)
What if i accidentally become a psychopath? 😮
J.G. Anderson (4 months ago)
And I'm going to stop people from stealing other people's children . . And believe it or not ...go on The YouTube for any information.. let look up CPS. Plus also Senator... Nancy Schaefer, she tried to protect family and unfortunately didn't have the best thing happened to her.... All because she just wanted to see family stay together and no harm come to children plus their families !!!! They Corruptions...
Septimus - Prime (4 months ago)
Everyone is afraid of disapproval....I'm not...not anymore.
Camden McDonald (4 months ago)
3:17 In stead 😂 That really got me
dex2 (4 months ago)
thanks, Imma ask my crush out now.
Cat Tac (4 months ago)
Could elaborate more, 1 of 7 billion opinions 😋 I need more help on this
Chris Zhang (4 months ago)
Charisma On Command speak in way that is so convincing that makes people want to listen to him. Everytime I have bad day or something doesn’t go the way I want to. I listen and I find that advice very useful.
Aweo Here (4 months ago)
"1:34" i find the animation part of " the point is ... " is really cute
Makato Arisato (4 months ago)
This Is Wholesome man, Thank you very much
Amanda J Tycer (5 months ago)
This video gave me the chills.
Enijah Daisey (5 months ago)
I like to say no one is worried about me cause there to busy worrying about their selves
King D Triple6 (5 months ago)
I actually have a beanie baby collection lol

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