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How To Stop Caring What People Think

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How To Stop Caring What People Think Discover The 4 Emotions You Need To Make a Killer First Impression: http://bit.ly/2nNVCa0 Have you ever lied about an odd hobby you have? Or maybe your job status? Or your height? Or even just avoided putting yourself in a situation in which you knew you were likely to fail? Why did you do that? Short answer: because you were embarrassed. Embarrassment comes from trying to control how other people perceive you. So instead of just showing the world your nerdy hobby, say you collect Beanie Babies, you go “I don’t want people to think I’m a dweeb.” and you pretend you don’t have one. The same process plays out with hobbies as it does with mistakes we’ve made, areas in which we are weak, and areas where we might get publicly rejected. We hide what we don’t want people to know about us. We conform to what other people would like us to be. But that doesn’t have to be the answer: Because there is another, more empowering mindset: Instead of focusing on other’s perceptions and feeling embarrassed about what they may think… Focus on whether or not you live up to YOUR OWN values. That's what this video is about and that's how you'll learn to stop caring what people think about you. Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-Subscribe Connect With Us Further: Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.com Facebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommand Periscope: https://www.periscope.tv/charismaon Or if you want to see my personal stuff (my regular life + me playing music): Instagram: @CharlieHoupert Periscope: @CharlieHoupert Animations by RSDF Studios, Jakarta (http://rambatansaddhadhika.co.id/) Art: Bonni Rambatan, Dwinanda Edo Editing: Bonni Rambatan
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🙌🏼Excellent definition: "Embarrassment comes from trying to control how other people perceive you."... "... Instead, focus on LIVING UP to YOUR OWN VALUES."... "... Let other people's perceptions of you fade out as background noise... Make mistakes, fail publicly, get laughed at... Own your screw-ups, your weirdness and your unpopular actions... And YOU ARE FREE!..." Congrats for the great message, and for the incredible illustrations with cartoons! 💜
sid love (2 days ago)
Sometimes you just don't want people to know things about you because it is not their business
chari Muvilla (2 days ago)
You CAN control how you look by loosing weight and exercising
decades (4 days ago)
Bold of you to think i have values
Bernadette (4 days ago)
A good quote that will sum this up pretty well is “don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm.”
Veron (4 days ago)
I don't care what you think about this comment.
ApplePi (6 days ago)
help my friends think i like someone even though im asexual
Peter Müller (9 days ago)
Brandon (11 days ago)
Daniela Jurcic (11 days ago)
3:28 Thank you, this made my day.
I needed this. Im placing my dignity on the line because if i get ten likes my comment im going to hose myself done and run around my street screaming latin.
margie (12 days ago)
No , but seeing you on video certainly does for the fifth thousandth time. And by the way -- if your such an expert why aren't you acting ?
Haruki Formosa (13 days ago)
I think I'm in the path you took 2 years ago, I found most of the answers on your channel
C H I Ł Ł (14 days ago)
game changer (15 days ago)
I am from assam in india and I want to be a cyclist
Helen S (16 days ago)
This was actually a very helpful video.this made me feel so much better.thanks!
Mcnuckledragger (19 days ago)
This gave me the confidence to pronounce my love for Nickelback
VELO 96 (19 days ago)
Thanks i really needed this☺️
Blacknoise (25 days ago)
How to defeat Blurryface
Kelly Belly (1 month ago)
You lost me at hustle!
jordan kotvas (1 month ago)
i play the trombone my neighbor does too i just started lessons and am playing in the band next year im scared that he will think i play it cuz of him i play it because i like it and im scared he will think i like him and i dont give a crap im just emberassed
A H. (1 month ago)
The beanie baby guy is great
Teen athletics (1 month ago)
*there are 7 billion People and u cant please everyone*
Requiem Blanchett (1 month ago)
i said "gacha studio is bad imo" on a video that was talking about how it sucked and a bunch of nine year olds threatened to kill me and it was funny but at the same time it made me feel bad and embarrassed so thanks
yes no (1 month ago)
wow this was very helpful. im watching and listening to someones life lessons for 2h? what?
Draw Clearly (1 month ago)
Rumors are Charlie still has 30 beanie babies hidden in his apartment. Not even his roommate knows.
Thalys Feitosa (1 month ago)
What people thing about me is their problem, not mine!
Thalys Feitosa (1 month ago)
"There are seven billion people in the world, each one of them with a different opinion, you cannot please them all". I would sum up the entire video on this sentence. Congrats!
Indrid Cold (1 month ago)
I do not care what people think. I know nobody. Nobody knows me. Why should I care what complete strangers think of me? It is not as if I am going to converse with them.
wig snatched (1 month ago)
my name's blurryface and i care what you think
Anthony Aguirre (1 month ago)
Yeah 1:00 really spoke to me and how i feel others would view my enourmous LEGO collection. It means a lot to me but others are merely interested in how much $$$$ i spend on my hobby.
jojotanify (1 month ago)
love the animations. so true!
George Mayers (1 month ago)
Good one 👍
fati ْ (1 month ago)
is it just me or that man drawing who’s supposed to be the manager or boss or whatever that fired the other guy (@ 1:45) looks like trump
Wizard Abhiii (1 month ago)
I didn't understand how to be be ourself without avoiding others? Please do reply.. I am suffering really bad on this in my life 😔
jaya arora (1 month ago)
Tyler Peyton (1 month ago)
Amazing I love this and here is the part that is hardest to achieve, it was very easy to watch.
babyboy jin (1 month ago)
finna go to school half naked tomorrow 😌
nikhar patel (1 month ago)
It's very contradictory but its a nice video (more contradiction)
Devante Swing (1 month ago)
As soon as I saw qwop I died! Lol
I've been in Sales/Dealing with people for a while now...can honestly say this is one of the better channels I've seen on Charisma on youtube. Awesome advice!
TS Tech Talk (1 month ago)
Thank you for the video
L M (1 month ago)
A portion of this video was very ignorant.
Møønie Pwcca (1 month ago)
Can we talk about the Nickelback for a second---
a thing (2 months ago)
Thanks for this. People make fun of me because I love anime. But then I realize at some point it saved me from actually killing myself and bringing me to become a more inspired, mature and understanding person, and why I still love and appreciate it. Seriously, god bless you.
Siobhan Harriet (1 month ago)
I use to love Anime! I don't watch it anymore though, but a few of my friends do, and i love them for it, because it makes them, them?😅
luffy (1 month ago)
Anime is amazing only people who havent watched it says its bad
Sang Nguyen (2 months ago)
Emi Goutaudier (2 months ago)
Thanks. Just Thanks.
just_A_RandomSoul (2 months ago)
QWOP...ah, the good old days
young man (2 months ago)
"...you're unpopular actions..." **puts Nickleback CD** Sir, I'm missing a lung after this hahahahahaha
Ruse Bamz (2 months ago)
1 millionth viewer here :D
matt davis (2 months ago)
Judgement inspired improvement. Don't give up, never give up. Never stop caring about what people think of you. Stay strong.
Mr Scruton (2 months ago)
Blown off means something else here
Chidz Hustle (2 months ago)
I watched this like a year ago and it really helped me, lol I’m much more honest of a person and try to have no shame in anything I do, cause what’s the worst that could happen?
Attack Titan (2 months ago)
I stopped giving a f*CK about what others thought of me a looonnnggg time a ago.
Iván Gómez (2 months ago)
I have to say it, probably one of the best advices i have heard in all my life, you actually change a bit my own perspective of how thinks are and how it works, thanks a lot my bro Hope you can get even bigger than now (It's kinda weird write a comment in a present time even though it's a 2017 video but the message it's still the same lol)
JA VV (2 months ago)
I asked my crush out last year and even though he rejected me i still feel really proud of myself for actually going through with it and taking the risk. Feeling sad for a week is alright when you can feel stronger and proud when looking back at events like those for being brave and stepping outside of your comfort zone.
ItzDraco (2 months ago)
Bruuuh...Nickelback ia always rejected
Y/B Visuals (2 months ago)
Mister Defeated (2 months ago)
When they have me under surveillance, it's not what they think about me that is the issue. The issue is that they think I have to tolerate it!
4k_. tre (2 months ago)
I have a bad hair cut and I'm goji g to school tomorow. c:
Rajmeet Singh (2 months ago)
3:17 "IN-STEAD" That word-play though.
miniongirl54321 (2 months ago)
What if I believe in Santa and my friends don’t
Tom haworth- Hawi01 (2 months ago)
Thank u, next.
memesthetic - (2 months ago)
Thank you so much :)
jay Okoruwa (2 months ago)
Thank you "Charisma On Command". Watching this video made me do my first comfort zone challenge for social anxiety (pushups in a mall). Can't wait to do the rest.
BoaSky (2 months ago)
Some girl had the nerve to tell me it’s stupid and petty not to care about what other People think of me I insulted her until it hurried
Peter Ottosen (2 months ago)
Phew, I got this one down at least. Not afraid of sharing my flaws and speaking up about my opinions. Love your content! Binged most of it by now and your analysis are spot on and always positive.
Branden Berrios (2 months ago)
Quick answer: acid
Vivi (2 months ago)
But how does one figure out their values?
Anand Choudhury Music (2 months ago)
Great one
ranju1446 (2 months ago)
The graphics are wonderful!
Human Male (2 months ago)
The thing about this is to really put it into practice in your daily life, it will be akward at first but it will be easy as the time passes you will be more of yourself, I wouldn't need the acceptance of others, I will try to live up to my dreams, I have apply this in real life, it will be hard but I will do it, I don't have to live anyones lifes.
shibnath roy (2 months ago)
The drawing in this video are so beautiful.
Wade Watts (3 months ago)
Thank you charisma on command! Serious, I never though that way, always I listened "be yourself,be yourself" but this phrase is very subjective, you have conscious of what do however you don't know HOW do. This video cleared my mind, you did a really mind blowing on me, +1 subscriber. Big hug from Brazil! :3
o of (3 months ago)
*I'm so fucking weird and watching this gave me confidence so world.... You better be ready*
Yoasef Tamer (3 months ago)
Tega Oko (3 months ago)
Easier said than done though
Zenith (3 months ago)
I learned one way to know a person's intentions TONE Tone is the portrayal of emotion through speech. We can fake what we say, but it's very hard to fake how we say it. A simple "I'm fine" can have a plethora of different meanings depending on the tone. They could be sad, happy, angry, bored, worried, scared, etc. You read intentions from how they say it, not what they're saying. If a friend came up to you and said, "boy/girl you ugly as hell!" with a smile and a laugh. Would you be offended?
Moayad (3 months ago)
Thank you for the video! Im going to be transgender now
Hayden H (3 months ago)
I love nickleback!!!
M M (3 months ago)
I think its because people are selfish, they think the world revolves around them & think everybody has an opinion of them. Truth is that nobody gives a shit about you, you are simply being paranoid. Nobody is thinking about you, nobody is worried about you, just do whatever the fuck you want, stop being scared.
딥블루 (3 months ago)
people don't know what you are thinking. they know less than 1/1000000 about you. so how can they judge you correctly? you just walk on the road of your life. life is very short. you disappear with every memory. don't regret thinking back lying on your death bed at your 80. live your life not what other people say, not what other people do.
Ameliarwen (3 months ago)
I'm going to cut my hair into a pixi cut tomorrow and I was scared of what people might think... Really needed this video
Mimicoco Cocojr (3 months ago)
Domino_Emery (3 months ago)
Yeeeaaaah. Soo much easier said then done.
Mitch Tindivale (3 months ago)
Like the Trump "you're fired" reference
Lewiski (3 months ago)
What if your value is to have a good image?
marelicainavokado (3 months ago)
Nickelback and Trump, hehe. Honestly, It's hard to find a balance. Being yourself when you're an introvert won't help you since fitting in it is important - unless you have the brains of Einstein, you'll have trouble finding a job without connections. If you don't bother with shaving, have short hair and wear baggy clothes, no guy will want you. We need to find that limit after which it's OK to not to care.
Zidneya (3 months ago)
>Make a killer impression. >Stop caring what people think. Pick one.
Dream Diver (3 months ago)
Limitless and undefined...As we should be!
Olivia Hanke (3 months ago)
listening to nickelback is honestly not ok
Fire Rat (3 months ago)
Love, love, love this!!! Thank you ❤️
ThatGuy Man (3 months ago)
0:50 What if we have no values
Silver Kane (3 months ago)
Huh so am a self - absorb jerk Neat
Vivi J (3 months ago)
hardest skill to master
safa (3 months ago)
i feel scared not embarrassed i can't standup for my self
Calvinsky Malbert (3 months ago)
hamilton tried it and failed(reynold pamphlet)
Razor0Sharp (3 months ago)
I get laughed at but I shouldn't care because it helps afterwards
Crash (3 months ago)
Qwop for mistakes 😅
Daman Batth (3 months ago)
I soooo needed this right now

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