How To Stop Caring What People Think
Discover The 4 Emotions You Need To Make a Killer First Impression:
Have you ever lied about an odd hobby you have? Or maybe your job status? Or your height? Or even just avoided putting yourself in a situation in which you knew you were likely to fail?
Why did you do that?
Short answer: because you were embarrassed.
Embarrassment comes from trying to control how other people perceive you. So instead of just showing the world your nerdy hobby, say you collect Beanie Babies, you go “I don’t want people to think I’m a dweeb.” and you pretend you don’t have one. The same process plays out with hobbies as it does with mistakes we’ve made, areas in which we are weak, and areas where we might get publicly rejected. We hide what we don’t want people to know about us.
We conform to what other people would like us to be.
But that doesn’t have to be the answer:
Because there is another, more empowering mindset:
Instead of focusing on other’s perceptions and feeling embarrassed about what they may think…
Focus on whether or not you live up to YOUR OWN values.
That's what this video is about and that's how you'll learn to stop caring what people think about you.
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Nickelback and Trump, hehe. Honestly, It's hard to find a balance. Being yourself when you're an introvert won't help you since fitting in it is important - unless you have the brains of Einstein, you'll have trouble finding a job without connections. If you don't bother with shaving, have short hair and wear baggy clothes, no guy will want you. We need to find that limit after which it's OK to not to care.
Only partially true. I do what I want but have to stay single and friendless because nobody likes me. I was tortured mercilessly in school which taught me at a young age that I am a piece of garbage that no one will ever love. I just don’t trust anyone and will never reveal my quirks because they are not mainstream. It is far better for me to never tell anyone anything because either no one will care or they’ll judge me.
ALL anxiety and stress comes from social anxiety.
My tips are:
1. Spend less time in your head and try consciously doing more observation of others, in a curious kinda way without jumping to judgement. So just passively observe people, look at them. It will help defuse your tension, they're just another person. It's exhausting scanning your thoughts for social thoughts and threats so stop doing that!
2. Stop setting high social standards for yourself. You're bound to fail if your expectations are much too high.
3. Stop avoiding people and stop engaging in safety behaviours (cigarette breaks, using phone to avoid conversations, changing direction when you see someone, alcohol etc). It just re enforces in your mind the notion that social situations are dangerous.
4. Stop negative thinking. Maintain a daily positive social engagement log. Whether that be something positive someone said to you or something socially positive you did. Socially anxious and shy people tend to remember (and seek out memories) of negative social interactions. They can vividly remember negative social interactions from like 20 years ago, but struggle to remember a positive one from 2 days ago. Realise that people are probably thinking many of the social negative thoughts as you are. So they're pointless thoughts really.
First the reason people mistreat those who are authentically themselves is because they are cowards and have chosen to fit in/conform. Thus they get very resentful and angry at those who chose to be their authentic self, so they try to tear down those who have the courage they lack. Here is the HOW, when others try to make you feel bad about yourself, just remind yourself that they are frightened of what others think of them and they lack the courage to be themselves and will ALWAYS be miserable trying to FIT IN. Remember that being yourself maybe difficult because of those type of people, but YOU will always be happier then them, because you know WHO you are and are not ashamed of the real you.
We need tot think What other people think of us that's is how we improve i mean shame isnt a bad things Just do whatever you want but you dont need tot tell IT to all people couse embaresbent is natural and we do t like IT for a reason
Yo everyone says I'm high when I feel I'm just saying profound shit that they can't follow mentally. I don't want to become shallow as a result of this but fuck I just gotta get through high school ughh what do I do??
eyy, I learned something!
It has always echoed that people should do the right thing. But I never took it to heart. Sometimes I would see trash on the ground and never pick it up, but only because I thought I would look wierd pulling up trash from the ground. Now I'll be sure to pick up trash re-assured it's the right thing to do, because I especially say so.
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Senator... Nancy Schaefer, she tried to protect family and unfortunately didn't have the best thing happened to her.... All because she just wanted to see family stay together and no harm come to children plus their families !!!!
Charisma On Command speak in way that is so convincing that makes people want to listen to him. Everytime I have bad day or something doesn’t go the way I want to. I listen and I find that advice very useful.