How To Stop Caring What People Think
Discover The 4 Emotions You Need To Make a Killer First Impression:
Have you ever lied about an odd hobby you have? Or maybe your job status? Or your height? Or even just avoided putting yourself in a situation in which you knew you were likely to fail?
Why did you do that?
Short answer: because you were embarrassed.
Embarrassment comes from trying to control how other people perceive you. So instead of just showing the world your nerdy hobby, say you collect Beanie Babies, you go “I don’t want people to think I’m a dweeb.” and you pretend you don’t have one. The same process plays out with hobbies as it does with mistakes we’ve made, areas in which we are weak, and areas where we might get publicly rejected. We hide what we don’t want people to know about us.
We conform to what other people would like us to be.
But that doesn’t have to be the answer:
Because there is another, more empowering mindset:
Instead of focusing on other’s perceptions and feeling embarrassed about what they may think…
Focus on whether or not you live up to YOUR OWN values.
That's what this video is about and that's how you'll learn to stop caring what people think about you.
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🙌🏼Excellent definition: "Embarrassment comes from trying to control how other people perceive you."... "... Instead, focus on LIVING UP to YOUR OWN VALUES."... "... Let other people's perceptions of you fade out as background noise... Make mistakes, fail publicly, get laughed at... Own your screw-ups, your weirdness and your unpopular actions... And YOU ARE FREE!..." Congrats for the great message, and for the incredible illustrations with cartoons! 💜
i play the trombone my neighbor does too i just started lessons and am playing in the band next year im scared that he will think i play it cuz of him i play it because i like it and im scared he will think i like him and i dont give a crap im just emberassed
i said "gacha studio is bad imo" on a video that was talking about how it sucked and a bunch of nine year olds threatened to kill me and it was funny but at the same time it made me feel bad and embarrassed so thanks
Thanks for this. People make fun of me because I love anime. But then I realize at some point it saved me from actually killing myself and bringing me to become a more inspired, mature and understanding person, and why I still love and appreciate it. Seriously, god bless you.
I have to say it, probably one of the best advices i have heard in all my life, you actually change a bit my own perspective of how thinks are and how it works, thanks a lot my bro
Hope you can get even bigger than now
(It's kinda weird write a comment in a present time even though it's a 2017 video but the message it's still the same lol)
I asked my crush out last year and even though he rejected me i still feel really proud of myself for actually going through with it and taking the risk. Feeling sad for a week is alright when you can feel stronger and proud when looking back at events like those for being brave and stepping outside of your comfort zone.
The thing about this is to really put it into practice in your daily life, it will be akward at first but it will be easy as the time passes you will be more of yourself, I wouldn't need the acceptance of others, I will try to live up to my dreams, I have apply this in real life, it will be hard but I will do it, I don't have to live anyones lifes.
Thank you charisma on command! Serious, I never though that way, always I listened "be yourself,be yourself" but this phrase is very subjective, you have conscious of what do however you don't know HOW do. This video cleared my mind, you did a really mind blowing on me, +1 subscriber. Big hug from Brazil! :3
I learned one way to know a person's intentions
Tone is the portrayal of emotion through speech. We can fake what we say, but it's very hard to fake how we say it. A simple "I'm fine" can have a plethora of different meanings depending on the tone. They could be sad, happy, angry, bored, worried, scared, etc.
You read intentions from how they say it, not what they're saying. If a friend came up to you and said, "boy/girl you ugly as hell!" with a smile and a laugh. Would you be offended?
I think its because people are selfish, they think the world revolves around them & think everybody has an opinion of them. Truth is that nobody gives a shit about you, you are simply being paranoid. Nobody is thinking about you, nobody is worried about you, just do whatever the fuck you want, stop being scared.
people don't know what you are thinking. they know less than 1/1000000 about you. so how can they judge you correctly? you just walk on the road of your life. life is very short. you disappear with every memory. don't regret thinking back lying on your death bed at your 80. live your life not what other people say, not what other people do.
Nickelback and Trump, hehe. Honestly, It's hard to find a balance. Being yourself when you're an introvert won't help you since fitting in it is important - unless you have the brains of Einstein, you'll have trouble finding a job without connections. If you don't bother with shaving, have short hair and wear baggy clothes, no guy will want you. We need to find that limit after which it's OK to not to care.